Those closest to us often have the ability to hurt us the most. We trust people who have the titles of friend or family and we can’t conceive that they could be working for someone else. In my last EmpowerMoment, Trusting the Untrustworthy, I recalled the story of Samson and his two wives who he trusted but they repeatedly betrayed him. If I look at this story from a different angle, I also realize that Samson’s enemies used the people closest to him to take advantage of his weaknesses.
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? A friend, a family member, a co-worker all of a sudden starts acting strange. Maybe you find out this person is being two-faced. Not only are they smiling and grinning in your face but they are also carrying your business to others. Your business is the topic of their conversation. Secrets that you only shared with them are now general conversation. Often times people step willingly into this tangled web and other times they are on assignment from the enemy. Samson had true enemies, people who wanted to destroy his life, and used the very people he loved to do just that. Then the lords of the Philistines gathered them together for to offer a great sacrifice unto Dagon their god, and to rejoice: for they said, Our god hath delivered Samson our enemy into our hand. And when the people saw him, they praised their god: for they said, Our god hath delivered into our hands our enemy, and the destroyer of our country, which slew many of us. (Judges 16:23-24 KJV)
God has given each of us a promise for our life; however, Satan, our enemy doesn’t want us to fulfill our divine destiny. He will use anyone he can to throw us off track and destroy our future. In the case of Samson, it was his wives. He opened his heart to women who were on assignment from his enemy, the Philistines. We do the same. We think that because someone is close to us that they need to know every detail of the thing that God has placed in your heart but that’s not always the case. Let God lead you on the things that you share and those you don’t. Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23 NIV)
We may think that the enemy will always show himself but many times he comes with a smile. We are unsuspecting because our guard is down. Surely, not my family! Not that friend! Yes, Satan will put anyone on assignment that is open to his antics. Sometimes a person may not even realize that the enemy is using them; however, their actions speak differently. When you feel compelled to share, examine the hearts of those closest to you. Pray and ask God if whatever is on your heart should reach any man’s ears. Don’t open your mouth until he tells you to. Furthermore, recognize those people who use their lips and their actions to subtly tear you apart. Recognize it in all of its forms and learn to rebuke the tricks of the enemy.
Increase my spirit of discernment. Sometimes I am so excited about the things that You have planted in my spirit that I want to share it with those I love the most. My heart is open but I need to recognize when I have enemies masked as friends and family. Help me to cut loose the people from my life who are not deserving of my attention. Touch those closest to me and let their thoughts be pure. Let them only think of ways to help and not harm me. Cast out every evil spirit from their imaginations. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to examine what you say and who you say it to. Are these friends or frienemes? Recognize the difference between support, corrective criticism and a destructive spirit. Pray for the strength of those around you so that they can withstand the tricks of the enemy.
Have you ever recognized when someone was on assignment from the enemy? Share your story.
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Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.