EmpowerMoments Christmas: What do the lonely do at Christmas?

Enjoy this EmpowerMoment orginally posted on December 24, 2011 and remember those who may not have family or friends to share this Christmas with.

This was a popular song, but also a very legitimate question.  I have found myself asking myself this question as most people prepare to spend this joyous time of year with friends and loved ones I have struggled with feeling lost, sad, depressed, and lonely.  As the Christmas and New Year approaches it is also a difficult time for those who have lost loved ones, and have no one to spend the holiday with.  My grandmother died last year on Christmas Eve so this has brought about some feelings of sadness as well as loss. However, the Lord said, ” I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5 KJV).

I have also discovered during this difficult time of the year those of us that are single begin to focus on the depressing reality that we have gone another year without having somebody to share it with.

Isaiah 41:10 NKJV Fear not, for I am with you;  be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you,  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

The Lord will always be by your side and with you.  If you have no one else in your corner you can always count on God.  I speak about things that I am guilty of myself.  I go in and out of a lot of homes because I am a Case Manager.  During this season I found myself encountering negativity and depressed spirits in most of the homes that I entered.  I had to realize that I was in the midst of a spiritual warfare.  The devil wanted me to take the spirits home with me that I was encountering in my clients’ homes.  I realized that I needed to pray before entering those homes to ensure those spirits were not transferred onto me.

Even though many of you may not go in and out of homes the way I do we all encounter these same negative spirits on a daily basis.  These spirits may be in the form of co-workers, family, and even friends.  We may not always see these spirits because it has more to do with our own insecurities than others.  Someone may be simply discussing family plans.  We immediately begin to think about the family we loss.  They may be talking about their significant others and children and we see it as bragging or boasting.  We must not allow the spirit of jealousy and bitterness manifest in our lives.  We must know that Jesus is the Reason for the Season and we must never forget that.

Dear Daddy,

I come before You during this joyous as well as difficult time of year and ask for Your strength and spirit to be with us.  I pray that You will help us to remember that this is a time to focus on You and how You died for our sins.  This is not about how many presents we will get or how much we have.  This is a time to reflect on how much we can do for others and how blessed we are to be able to see another year in our right mind, good health, and peace. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you to take this time to look at the many reasons you are blessed instead of allowing the negative spirits to make you look at what you don’t have.  Reflect on all the ways you have grown in the last years and the ways that would like for God to continue to manifest in your life.  I EMPOWER you in the New Year to EMPOWER someone else.  Show them what God has done in your life and what He can do in theirs.


Ms. Sherita Shelton currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee.  She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Master’s in Professional Counseling and is currently pursuing her counseling license.  Sherita works as a therapist and case manager for children as well as adults.  She facilitates groups for single women and offers mentoring and individual counseling for her clients.  Sherita’s favorite Bible verse is Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lot not on your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

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