Dealing With Defeat


It happens.

The loved one you were praying so hard for passes away. The promotion everybody knew you deserved gets handed to someone else. The weight you worked so hard to lose somehow crept its way back, and you’re right back where you started. The man you thought was “The One” breaks up with you.

The pain of defeat can lead to anger, depression, denial, and doubt. Defeat can also cause you to question your faith. It even has caused some to lose theirs.

Yet, defeat in one area can be God setting you up for greatness in another area. We can never know the intricate greatness of God’s ultimate plan. We can, however, always take comfort knowing that God is working everything – even our defeats – out for our good.

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. (Romans 8:28 NLT)

So, when defeat knocks on your door, take the pain and questions to the Lord. Instead of running from His presence in anger, run to His arms and allow Him to ease your angst.

Hannah spent years feeling defeated in her barrenness. It was when she took her sorrows to the Lord that He turned things around, and she wound up giving birth to one of the greatest prophets that walked the earth. (1 Samuel 1, 2)

David lived in apparent defeat for years when he lived on the run with a bunch of deadbeats as his friends. Yet, God raised Him up to become the greatest king Israel has ever had. Plus, those ‘deadbeats’ flourished under his leadership and became some of Israel’s greatest warriors and leaders. (1 Samuel 22)

Your story is not over. As long as you’re breathing, you are still walking to purpose.  Stay tuned in to your Heavenly Father. He’s got you safe in His arms. He’s working it all out for your good.

But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 15:57, 58 KJV)

Dear Daddy,

I may not understand why things came out the way they did, but help me through what feels like a defeated place. Help me to remember that You hold my life in Your hands and that You are bringing me to the divine place of victory that You ordained for me before I was even born. Let me experience the comfort of Your Holy Spirit and Your peace. God, whatever reason You had for allowing this, help me to remember the greatness of Your love for me. Help my faith to remain strong in You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to not let defeat keep you from your promised end. Don’t let today’s setback affect your hope for tomorrow. Don’t let today’s pain keep you from tomorrow’s joy. Psalm 30:5 reminds us that weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.


Tiara Wilkinson just released her first book “Days of Purpose & Destiny” which is available on Amazon and Kindle. You can find more information at http://www.daysofpurposeanddestiny.com. Tiara also serves as the Youth Leader and on the Pastoral Care Team at Christ Worship Center in Riverdale, Illinois. Her favorite passage of the Bible is Psalm 27 which reminds us that the Lord is our strength, so we have no reason to fear anything.


2 thoughts on “Dealing With Defeat”

  1. Tiara, thank you for this reminder that God is working in every part of my life including defeat. I will continue to stand on His promises and know He has me safely in His arms.

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