Notes From Me To Me

Dear Twenty Year Old Me

In honor of Women’s Month, each writer will be writing our EmpowerMoments full of encouragement and lessons to our younger selves in a series titled Notes From Me To Me. Sit back and enjoy our reflections, and also think about what would you say to your younger self.

Dear Me…at 20,

I’m reaching you at your turning point. I know this guy seems like he is the very air that you breathe, and while I am not about to tell you to leave him because the heart break he is going to cause will cause you to know how to love the man of your dreams (I’ve seen how this will play out, trust me, it’s good), I do want to encourage you to do some things to enhance your future:

  1. Stop eating French fries. When you hit 30, your metabolism is going to change and you will be susceptible to diabetes. Type II Diabetes is real! You can lose your eye sight, the functionality of your limbs, and ultimately your life. I Corinthians 6:19-20 says, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you received from God? You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.” Your witness to non-believers will be weakened by being obese. In your case, it shows a sign of lack of self-control. Add rice and potatoes of other forms to this list too.
  2. Save more money!! At the age of 20, you should be learning what it means to be a good steward over your finances. No matter what job you have or how much income you receive, tithe FIRST, pay yourself second, and then save ALL of the rest. Prepare to buy your first house in cash! You can’t reach your full potential in the kingdom with debt. Dave Ramsey (go ahead and look him up) stated, “Imagine how the kingdom of God would be if the people of God were out of debt.” When you are in debt or don’t have extra resources, you can’t serve to your maximum potential. You have a heart to help those in need by furnishing houses, buying cars for others, groceries, schools, etc. But you can’t do that if your funds are limited. 1 Peter 4:10 NIV says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” All of your money from your job should not go to bills and personal expenses, you should have enough left over to serve others.
  3. Cherish all of the friends along your journey and understand early that God has charged you with the gift of confidence. Not confidence as in attitude, but being able to have people trust you with their secrets and issues. However, this does not mean that they are your “friends.” So don’t be surprised when they cry their heart and issues out to you but then don’t invite you to “hang out.” You are their friend, but they are not yours. Recognizing this now will save you a lot of heartache. God has placed you in their life to be an example of a Christian confidant. Don’t abuse it. Trust is very important.
  4. Wait for everything. Do not move fast. Remember the old saying, “haste makes waste.” You will save yourself a lot of trouble and taking your foot out of your mouth if you just wait. Waiting requires knowing God’s voice and when he says to move. You can only do this by learning how to be still in your spirit. Practice this DAILY! It will serve you well.
  5. And finally, do “it” because you can. Feed this to yourself, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure” – Marianne Williamson. Go ahead and complete that book you started and get that certification you didn’t think you really would use. Don’t talk yourself out of things. When God makes a way, take it and do it! He doesn’t call the equipped, He equips the called! Not only can you do all things through Christ who strengthens you, but if God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31 NIV.

When you were 11, a preacher pulled you to the side and said, “You have a calling over your life.” And he was right! I don’t want you to change the sins, bad mistakes and decisions, you are doing now because these are the tools that God will use to make you who you are in your mid-thirties. This is what will make you wise beyond your years. But I want you to seize the opportunities I mentioned above. You will be further ahead than the older you whose writing you today. Keeping loving yourself, keep loving others, and be great!!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for allowing me to reflect on my past so that I can refocus my today. Thank You for saving me, watching over me, and using the pain in my yesterday to make me wise and a follower after your heart. Lord, please use my lessons learned to help younger women, my daughters, nieces, sisters, cousins, and other young women how look up to me. Thank You for being my rock, my sword, and my shield.  You are worthy to be praised!

Women, I EMPOWER you to look at your yesterday. Use it to catapult you to a better Woman tomorrow.


As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is a university administrator.  She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV) Khalilah also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Her passion for servant-hood is implemented through serving her community with Girl Scouts and her sorority, mentoring young women, and marriage empowerment. She resides in Daphne, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their two daughters. Currently, they are seeking a  church home in their new city.