Notes From Me To Me

So Much Life Ahead

In honor of Women’s Month, each writer will be writing our EmpowerMoments full of encouragement and lessons to our younger selves in a series titled Notes From Me To Me. Sit back and enjoy our reflections, and also think about what would you say to your younger self.

Dear brilliant, beautiful you,

Lift your head up. I’m writing you this love letter from the other side to let you know that it gets better. There will be many decisions to make; however, some of the choices that you make over the next few years will have a profound impact on your life. College, career, men, friendships, money matters, family – decisions you make in these areas can completely change the trajectory. Don’t make permanent decisions for temporary situations. If you remember nothing else, please remember to seek God first. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:6 KJV

As life has shown, you were born grown and never had the chance to enjoy the true normalcy and innocence of childhood. At 16, it’s hard to deal with many things especially a grown woman’s body. It’s genetics and those ample breasts were given to you for good reason. Don’t let the teasing by young men and the yuckiness of old perverts make you change them. Don’t do it! So many other things will change that you will rue the day that you had a breast reduction. Right now, you are leaning on “health issues” but deep down I know that you just don’t want the attention that they bring. Remember, I know you. Believe me, if this is something that you want, you will want it when you are old enough to understand the repercussions of letting them change your body. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Feel good knowing that each part of you was sculpted by a master sculptor. But now, O Lord, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand. Isaiah 64:8 KJV Every part of you is beautiful so love yourself more.

Because I know who you will become, here are some other words of wisdom that will help along the way, especially in your 20’s:

  • Learn to say NO without excuse, hesitation or explanation. It will save you time, money and heartache.
  • When doing for others, do things because you want to do them and not because you feel forced or that you “owe” anyone.
  • When dating, let people go when you realize it’s not what you want or need. Your time could be better used.
  • You will make some mistakes over and over and over again because you fail to learn the lesson. Get the lesson so that you don’t waste time repeating mistakes.
  • Accept your family for who they are and not who you want them to be. The only person that you can control is yourself. Stay out of the drama and let them sort their issues out.
  • Pay attention to your health. Little things can become big things.
  • Just do it! Procrastination will try to destroy many of your dreams and it will if you allow it to fester.
  • Seek excellence in all that you do.
  • Remember your relationship with God is paramount to everything.

As you grow older, you will become wiser but you will also feel vulnerable and insecure in areas of your life that you have tried to protect. Ask God for discernment and thank Him as he brings you out of each valley. Know that if you had no valleys you wouldn’t appreciate the peaks in your life. Thank Him for the rain as well as the sunshine because the rain will help you grow.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for my life and the lessons that You have enabled me to learn. I appreciate the mountain peaks and the valleys because they have molded me into who I am today. Lord I know that I can’t change the past but let me be a vessel to reach someone who can learn from me. God I ask that You grant me a long, healthy and prosperous life. As I move forward, let me follow Your will and lean not unto my own understanding and desires. Thank You for the ability to reflect and reset. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to not let your past dictate your future. Each day is a new day to get it right. What are the lessons that you learned yesterday that you could apply today? Embrace who you are right now. If you don’t like something, change it but don’t get stuck wallowing in self pity and misery. Live, laugh, and learn. There’s more life ahead.

Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is a small business owner as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures  are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.