In honor of Women’s Month, each writer will be writing our EmpowerMoments full of encouragement and lessons to our younger selves in a series titled Notes From Me To Me. Sit back and enjoy our reflections, and also think about what you would say to your younger self.
Dear Younger Me,
God made you special. You’ve always been an old soul and sometimes wise beyond your years. You’ve also been naive and sometimes compromising to your own detriment. It was important to you to be liked by EVERYBODY. You didn’t know that that is unrealistic and impossible. You went out of your way to make others happy even at the expense of yourself. You didn’t realize that’s not how life should be.
See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ. (Colossians 2:8 ESV)
You shouldn’t sacrifice yourself for the sake of not wanting to hurt others feelings. Not that you should intentionally hurt people but you shouldn’t live in misery or discomfort for fear that someone will be so broken up because of you; because you said no, because you said later, because you said maybe, because you said you didn’t want to. It’s really not all about you! You didn’t know that then. You can’t be everything to everybody. They may be upset but these things will pass and you both will be better off in the long run. You will get over it and so will they. The same God who is able to sustain you is able to sustain them.
You are taking things too far by compromising yourself, your values and your peace of mind by holding on to what should have been dissolved a long time ago or in some cases never even entertained in the first place. John 16:33 says “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Just because he tells you he is so smitten with you and that you’re playing hard to get doesn’t mean you have to entertain him for fear of hurting his feelings or because you feel sorry for him. I mean really, who made you a martyr for mankind! I know you were raised to be kind and considerate to everyone and to treat others with humility. However, you can’t be held responsible for the actions or thoughts of others especially if you’re being true to yourself and you aren’t being malicious.
You were not made to be everybody’s friend and everybody is not going to like you. Everybody is not going to be a true friend to you as you are to them. Realize that’s a part of life, grow from it and let her go. Friends don’t treat you nice one moment and mistreat you the next. That is not a friendship.
Nobody has the ability to be perfect, only God. Stop being obsessed with perfection! That’s too much pressure and besides you are only a teenager. You will be the best at some things but you can’t be the best at everything. There is nothing wrong with that. Give yourself a break. Sure, your parents expect you to do your best and be your best but they do understand you aren’t perfect nor can you be. You didn’t get to accomplish all you wanted to during your school years but look at what you did accomplish and be appreciative.
Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” For this I am truly thankful!
Thank You for protecting me from myself and my antics. Thank You for showing me I can’t carry everyone’s burdens but You can. Thank You for delivering me from being overly compromising and too self-sacrificial. Thank You for making me perfectly imperfect. In Jesus Name, Amen.
I EMPOWER you to be confident in who you are and who God says you are! I EMPOWER you not to bear the weight of the world on your shoulders! I EMPOWER you to embrace your strengths and not get hung up on your weaknesses! I EMPOWER you to draw the line between compromise and self-demise. I EMPOWER you to think about yourself as well as others! I empower you to be YOU!
Mrs. Coretta Collins is a wife and mother who enjoys reading, writing, movies and spending time with family and friends. She is avid about health, healing and helping which serves her well as a Family Nurse Practitioner in a hematology and oncology practice. Striving to be led by the Lord throughout life and having overcome significant challenges, her favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Coretta is a member of St. John A.M.E. Church in Birmingham, Alabama. She resides in Calera, Alabama with her awesome husband and two wonderful sons.