It Does Get Better

In honor of Women’s Month, each writer will be writing our EmpowerMoments full of encouragement and lessons to our younger selves in a series titled Notes From Me To Me. Sit back and enjoy our reflections, and also think about what would you say to your younger self.

Dear Younger Me,

You have a lot going on in your life right now that is hard to deal with, but it life does get better. One of the biggest things you’re dealing with is your father being an alcoholic and him not keeping his promises to you. You’re also dealing with being bullied at school and not getting along with your mother. The bullying will cause you to have low self-esteem; however, bullying and low self-esteem are nothing new to you because you’ve been dealing with it since elementary school. You’re angry at your mom because you both had to move from Texas to Alabama to take care of her mother (your grandmother) who passed away the next year after the move. As a result of all of these things, you’re angry, hurt, and have a bad attitude. You don’t know how to handle but you will eventually learn to cope and heal through your ways of escape. So keep praying, reading books, writing in your diary, singing, and embracing those times alone and of reflection in your room.

And as you get older, you will learn some things that will give you a new perspective and courage to be the woman that God is molding you into.

  • Learn to accept people for who they are and continue to pray for them to become the people God desires them to be. You will learn to accept your father for who he is.  Your relationship with your father is rocky, but it gets better.
  • Learn to accept and love yourself. Remember that it is okay to be yourself and that you don’t have to do things for people to make them like you.
  • Value the love, the care, the sacrifice, and wisdom of your mother. I know you love your mom and you are angry about the change and so much more, but your mother loves you more than you know, and your relationship with your mom does get better too. She is going to be there for you no matter what happens in your life.
  • Also remember that it’s okay to speak up for yourself and don’t allow people to mistreat you.

The older you,



Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being there for me through every trial that I have endured. Thank You for healing me from my past hurt. In Jesus Name, Amen.

LADIES, I EMPOWER you, to write a letter to your younger self. It might be an emotional experience, but you can gain something from it.


Venus Gilmore currently resides in Auburn, AL. She is an alumna of Auburn University. Venus has B.A. in Sociology with a concentration in Social Organization and Inequality with a minor in Social Work. She plans on pursuing a career in Social Services. She currently serves as the Mamie Reese Scholarship Director and College Transition Program Director of her sorority Theta Phi Sigma Christian Sorority, Inc. Venus is also a blogger for Radical7even. She is an active Client Advocate volunteer for the Women’s Hope Medical Clinic. She successfully balances all of these responsibilities with her favorite scripture as motivation: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)