Flashback Fridays

Flashback Friday: I Want To Be Her

Enjoy this flashback originally posted on September 18, 2013.

Proverbs 31My daughter just started kindergarten and the number one question school aged children are asked is “What do you want to be when you grow up?” As I’ve aged, gracefully might I add, I’ve done countless revisions, modifications, additions, extractions, and replacements in my life in order for me to be who I want to be as a woman. I’ve often wanted to be phenomenal.  Dr. Maya Angelou’s poem, “Phenomenal Woman” has always been one of my favorites. In her poem she describes the mysterious, sultry and noble woman; a woman who is breathtaking to say the least by her inner strength and grace. But overall, I really want to be like the woman described in Proverbs 31 as a Virtuous Woman.

In this passage, the Virtuous Woman is described as a hard worker, smart, wise (there’s a difference), a planner, and just overall awesome. I want to share some of my favorite passages describing her.

“She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” (Proverbs 31: 15 NIV) When I get up early, before sunrise, I find it the best time to provide food for my family. I don’t mean physical food, but spiritual food. It’s during those quiet hours that I like to spend time with the Lord praying over my family, anointing them on their sleeping foreheads with oil, or pleading the blood of Jesus over their lives. But I wish I could do this more often. Sometimes you are just worn out, burned out, and downright too tired. But God requires and deserves more. This needs to be a habit and not just a great idea.

“When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.” (Proverbs 31:21 NIV) When I think of this, I think of us being prepared for drastic conditions. Have I clothed my family in prayer enough for us to withstand the “cold”? Are they covered in His scarlet blood, to be protected from the storm? In the physical sense, am I remaining keenly aware of my children’s threads, making sure they are appropriate, presentable, and teaching my daughters how to dress as a future woman of God? Are my husband’s stitches always crisp (even if crisp means me commenting on how nicely he ironed his own shirt J ).

“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” (Proverbs 31:26 NIV) Many of you have read my past EmpowerMoments enough to know that I have the tendency to flip the lip, or at least want to flip the lip, a time or two. But this woman speaks with wisdom and in faith. Thinking on this passage makes me count it all joy, the trials that I have gone through. Wisdom can only be obtained from applying life’s lessons.

When I grow up I want to be her. I want to be wise in my decisions, smart in my living, and discerning when it comes to my friends and relationships. The Bible says, “For a good tree does not bear bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. For every tree is known by its own fruit. For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they gather grapes from a bramble bush. (Luke 6:43-44 NIV)  I want to bear good fruit. I’ve bore two girl children and I want them to grow up and be good fruit. Since the apple does not fall far from the tree, I have to be careful about what influences me. I want the Proverbs 31 Woman to influence me. While I don’t consider her perfect, she is definitely one who I would consider a role model who God placed in print for us to look at.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for giving us standards. I appreciate the tangible examples You provide in Your Word that help to guide me to surpassing the Proverbs 31 Woman, by being a woman after Your own heart. Lord, helps us as women to be mindful of the things we let influence us. Please guard our thoughts and our actions. Our children and mentees are looking up to us for a pattern. Help us pattern ourselves after the women of God You have called us to be. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to get a role model. If she is not the Proverbs 31 Woman, may she be someone, past or present, who exemplifies Godly attributes and points you in the direction of Christ. May she be someone who encourages you not to be like her, but to be like God.

Please take a moment to watch this video clip regarding the Virtuous Woman: The Proverbs 31 Woman Series


As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is a university administrator. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV) Khalilah also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Her passion is mentoring young women and marriage empowerment. She resides in Orange Beach, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their two daughters. They are members of New Beginnings Christian Center in Foley, AL.