Family, Friendships, Growth/Maturity, Leadership, Relationships

Throwback Thursday: I Believe in Vampires

It’s Throwback Thursday! This EmpowerMoment was originally published on July 13, 2011. Enjoy this blast from the past!

Not the kind that wear capes, have sharp fangs and only come out at night but the ones that you talk to every day, have dinner with you and share some of your deepest thoughts.

One day as I was strolling through “La La” land thanking God for the restoration of a family relationship, I became prey for a vampire. I received a phone call from this same family member that started off really nice but before you know it I was in a full blown shouting match. I hung up without ending the conversation and felt dazed and confused about what had just happened. I had a good “ugly” cry about it before I realized that their issue was not “my” issue and that they had sank their fangs into me, relieved me of all of my good energy and went on about their merry way.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. (Ephesians 6:11 NIV)

Vampires are mythical creatures that live by feeding on other living beings. After they feed on other living beings, they are refreshed and restored. I am sure if you scroll through the Rolodex of your mind, you know a few vampires too. Their approach may be different but the end result is always the same. Every time you talk to a certain person, you may never get into a disagreement but by the time the conversation ends, you feel drained. Sometimes it’s the mere “dumping” of their problems that you aren’t mentally capable of handling. You end up feeling empty and exhausted while they proceed feeling reenergized, refocused and refreshed. That vampire just received a “job well done.”

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23 NIV) Most vampires are able to get to you because you have the guard down around your heart. We must protect our heart at all times because our life flows from it. No one can get to our hearts like “good friends and family”…the people we love dearly. After that phone call, I began to take inventory of all of the vampires in my life. Some of them will always be in my life because they are family, so instead of running for the garlic, I am learning how to deal with them and you should too:

  • Return Policy – Give people back their stuff! You need to return all issues that do not belong to you. No longer allow people to make their issue your issue. Hold people accountable and make them take ownership of their stuff.
  • Set Boundaries – This can be hard to do but you have to set boundaries with people. Sometimes you have to change the way that you allow them to communicate with you as well as the frequency of communication.
  • Don’t Dump On Me – Everyday can’t be trash day. There are times when our own lives are in a tailspin and we emotionally can’t take on anyone else’s garbage.
  • Don’t Give Them Power – Stop engaging them. Just cut the conversation short. “You know what, right now I really don’t have the time to talk about this. I will talk to you later.” At this point trying to get them to understand your view isn’t important, just cut the power cord.
  • Be Aware! – Ask God for discernment so that you can see people who were sent to you because you can help them vs. those who really don’t want help. They just want to drain you.
  • Be Ready! – When vampires attack you, Be Ready!  Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11 KJV)

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for Your protection and Your love! Help me to recognize the vampires in my life and show me how to best deal with them. When I leave my guard down and come under attack, restore me immediately and remind me that these people only come to take me off of my heavenly purpose. Remove those people from my life whose sole mission is to feed off of me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen! 

Today, I EMPOWER you to take inventory of the vampires in your life and really think about how you are going to deal with each of them. Guard your heart and don’t allow them to drain you of your energy and your time.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Who’s Changing Your Thermostat?

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Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Accountability, Back To School Series, Growth/Maturity, Leadership

Back To School: Pausing Peer Pressure

School has begun for most students across the world so EmpowerMoments is featuring a series entitled “Back to School”.   Read each day as our writers share stories and learned lessons from their school-related experiences.  Come and get on our EmpowerMoments school bus!

“I don’t like her.”

“Why not?”

“Just because.”

“Did she do something to you?”

“Nope, but my friend doesn’t like her, so neither do I.”

Ladies, how many of you are guilty of such a conversation at some point in your life? I’m pretty certain that a good number of us have been on the giving or receiving end of this exchange at one time or another. I know I have! In elementary school I was the victim of such idiocy. One girl disliked me so an entire group chose not like me as well. By the time I made it to high school, I was hating people simply because my friends were hating them. Fast forward to college and I was the one dictating who we should and shouldn’t treat nicely. Although I played very different roles in each of these scenarios, one thing remained consistent—each included a horrible case of peer pressure.

Many of you reading this are probably thinking that peer pressure is just a problem that we deal with in school, but I beg to differ. Many of us adults are guilty of engaging in activities at the suggestion of someone else, situations which we otherwise would have chosen to forego.  We may (or may not) have grown past choosing our friends and enemies based on what others feel but we still fall victim to the pressure of our peers from time to time. Do you recall when your neighbor wanted to help you get a job at her company and she encouraged you to add some fluff to your resume` — peer pressure.  Remember when he convinced you to have sex after you declared a life of celibacy until marriage—peer pressure. What about when you sat around listening to your friends gossip about the girl down the street?   Sure, you didn’t add anything to the conversation but you didn’t stand up for right either—peer pressure.

In Exodus 23, verses 2 and 3 clearly admonish us against such behavior: “Do not join a crowd that intends to do evil. When you are on the witness stand, do not be swayed in your testimony by the opinion of the majority.” (NLT) We are to be witnesses daily for the Gospel. It is imperative that our testimonies and lifestyles are not dictated by the majority’s worldly standards. We have a duty to choose right, even when it is not popular. We cannot be afraid to go against the grain to maintain God’s standards for living!

I am most inspired by a very recent and familiar story of one man’s courage to stand up for what he believed in and not give in to the pressure from his peers. Dan Cathy, President and CEO of Chick-Fil-A, chose to stand on his belief that God reserved marriage for man and woman, and not those of the same sex.  I am well aware of many who challenged his stance and I am sure Mr. Cathy recognized the threat that such controversy could pose to his restaurant’s bottom line. However, that didn’t sway his testimony! He chose to stand for what was Biblically right over what was popular. Even after knowing the consequences of choosing right, will you stand for God or give into the pressure of your peers? I’ve learned that God will bless you when your life blesses Him. (Look at the lines wrapped around Chik-Fil-A!)

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for the times that I chose to follow people when I should’ve been following You. Give me the strength and will to make decisions that would glorify You and not taint my witness for the Kingdom. Please grant me the courage to go against whatever goes against Your word, even if it means going against those closest to me. Today I choose to stand up for right! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to challenge peer pressure. If the temptation to do wrong is too strong for you to resist when you are in the company of certain individuals, you may need to reconsider their position in your life. EMPOWER your stance for the kingdom by choosing to do right!

How do you ensure that you are not tainted by negative influences? Share your tactics with us below.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Flee!


Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant. She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments. As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and three lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

Character, Courage, Honesty/Truth, Integrity, Leadership

Lacking Integrity

…As long as I have life within me, the breath of God in my nostrils, my lips will not speak wickedness, and my tongue will utter no deceit.  I will never admit you are in the right; till I die, I will not deny my integrity. (Job 27: 3-5 NIV)

Recently, a friend called me for my advice on a matter.  My friend, a current graduate student, explained to me that she had been assigned a partner by her teacher to do a PowerPoint project on leadership and integrity.  Well, my friend took the initiative to start the project, contact her partner, and do the research.  She also emailed the PowerPoint to her partner in the middle of completing the assignment with some things that were left  that the partner could complete, but the partner failed to do that and my friend had to complete them herself.  My friend had completed the project with very little communication and no help from her partner until the night before it had to be submitted.  This time the partner told her that she was finally looking over the project.  It was then the partner put her name on the project, added one quote and a paragraph, and submitted it to the teacher.  The partner didn’t know that my friend had already submitted the project over to the teacher with a note saying in a nutshell that her partner did not fully communicate or help with the project.  So my friend wanted to know if she had done the right thing by telling her teacher.

Later that day I received another call from my friend saying that she wished she hadn’t said anything because the partner still got credit for her work and earned an easy B.  As my friend shared all of this with me, I thought and told her, “How ironic that the lesson was on integrity.”

However, this is not what solely sparked my EmpowerMoment.  Whether the partner was right or wrong is not why I am writing this EM.  This situation led me to remember the time God had to teach me about integrity.

Now, I am a person who is virtuous and trustworthy.  I have also been told by others that I am trustworthy, loyal, honest and a person who people can trust with their lives.  However, I too had to be reminded by God that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. (Romans 3:23 NIV)

Some years ago my church was studying and learning about revival and during this time I had to pray and ask God to search my heart for any sin I was committing knowingly or unknowingly.  One of the things that God brought to me was lying on my timesheet, recording I arrived at this time or worked X amount of hours knowing it was untrue.

Yet, I felt justified because my job and my then part-time position was flexible and if I had to be in class or go downtown to drop off paperwork I could leave work with no questions asked.  I felt justified because I have always struggled with tardiness, not that I can’t or haven’t been on time.  I felt justified because some days I would even stay later to make up hours.  I felt justified because I thought I couldn’t be the only one doing this.  No matter how much I felt justified, I was still wrong.  If I said I could work from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., then that means I need to be there at 10 a.m. consistently, not at 12 noon whether someone is watching or NOT.  I have to do the right thing whether it’s popular or NOT.  I have to hold fast to my morals whether I am patted on the back or NOT.  Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. (Colossians 3:23-24 NIV)

My heart was heavy about this and I sincerely repented of lying and deceiving.  I took for granted my job, that no one was standing over my shoulders, and that people trusted me.  After God exposed my sin to me and forgave me, He wasn’t done with me.  I had to confess to my boss.  I did and ladies it humbled me and scared me!  I was scared of the result of my confession.  My boss listened, didn’t make me feel worse than I felt, was glad that I confessed and really appreciated my honesty.  Later on my boss made sure the employees had more accountability with our timesheets and consistency and I think that was because of what I had done.  I am relieved to say that I did not get terminated and I was more punctual than ever, but if I did run late I would make a phone call and not lie on my timesheet.  I learned a lesson on integrity and I have been on my job now for about 11 years.

Dear Daddy, 

Thank You for Your righteousness, holiness and justness.  Thank You for Your mercy and unfailing love too.  Thank You for exposing some things in my life so that I can have better character and unadulterated faith.  Thank You for Your forgiveness and giving me humility to confess my sins.  Help me to exude Christ-like character each day no matter the cost.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to live a life worthy of your calling you have received (Ephesians 4:1).  Watch for creeping sin because sin not only displeases God but also blinds your perception of things.  Exude Godly character whether someone is looking or not.  Hold fast to your faith and your morals.  Do not compromise your integrity for anyone including yourself!

Take the time to read about Job (Job 1, 2 and 27:1-5) and Joseph (Genesis 39), two people who maintained their integrity even in difficult times or situations.

Ladies, has God ever had to check your integrity? How did you recover? Share your story with us.

Read a Related EmpowerMoment: Can God Trust You?


Ms. Tannika Moore loves the Lord and loves to write!  Besides writing poetry or editing written work for family and friends, she currently works for NEIU Educational Talent Search program.  She help assists Chicago public high school students with their reading, writing, etc. as well as helps them consider and prepare for college.  She, like many of her students, is the first of her family to graduate from college.  She earned a Bachelor’s of Arts in English-Professional & Technical Writing.  God, the Creator and Great Father has also created her to be a Compassion Person and Encourager and so she loves to encourage people according to God’s Word and help them to see, think and become better thru her support, actions and writing.  Her favorite scripture comes from Philippians 1:6, For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you shall perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus

Jesus, Leadership, Mentor/Mentee, Mentoring, Righteousness, Throwback Thursdays

Throwback Thursday: He Is I, I Am Him

It’s Throwback Thursday! This EmpowerMoment was originally published on May 27, 2011. Enjoy this blast from the past!

On last Friday I made a reference to Zacchaeus. If you’re not sure who he was let me tell you a little bit about him. He was a man not liked by the people because he was a tax collector. He wasn’t a tall man, in fact he very small in stature. He heard that Jesus was coming through Jericho. No one would make way for him to see Jesus so he decided to climb a tree to see Him. As Jesus passed by, He noticed him in the tree, asked him to come down, and told him that He would be staying at his house. The people of the town were in utter shock that Jesus, the Messiah, would actually take the time to even acknowledge this sinner.

Jesus entered Jericho and was passing through. A man was there by the name of Zacchaeus; he was a chief tax collector and was wealthy. He wanted to see who Jesus was, but being a short man he could not, because of the crowd. So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree to see him, since Jesus was coming that way. When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly. All the people saw this and began to mutter, “He has gone to be the guest of a ‘sinner.’ ” But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.” Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham.  For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” (Luke 19: 1-10 NIV)

Zacchaeus was determined to see Jesus even though the crowd was large, even though he was small, and even though he was a sinner. His faith was sufficient and Jesus recognized that. He made a promise to Jesus to turn his life around and he was forgiven for everything. This is where I see me. I liken myself to Zacchaeus. I had to fight the crowd and find sanctity in my own tree so that the Master could see me. This is not only one of my favorite biblical stories because of its powerful message of climbing “above the crowd” but it also shows that Jesus wasn’t hanging out with the Holy…He was hanging with those who needed to be saved. I’m sure in my past people caught flack for hanging around me. Even now I catch flack for hanging with certain people but you never know why God has put you in someone’s life. You may be the example that they are waiting for. Our only concern should be living right by example and those around us who are struggling in their relationship will see that if God can deliver us from the mess that we were in He can surely do it for them.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for my tree. I also thank You for placing me in people’s lives and for placing them in mine. I remember what You did for me and I pray that those around me who don’t know You can find You through the life that I am trying to live. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today I EMPOWER you to stick with those around you who have fallen. Do not give up on that FRIEND who is lost. REMEMBER that you were there once. PRAY for him or her. In time they will find their own tree and rise above to seek out Jesus in the crowd.

How do you encourage those who have fallen by the wayside to turn again to Jesus; or, do you find yourself in the position of Zacchaeus?Share your story.

Read a related EmpowerMoment:  Dont Leave Them, Lead Them


Shawna Dix is a mother, educator, and all around child of God. She is passionate about God, her son Jalen, family, friends, and her students. She loves teaching because it allows her to shower our youth with love and guidance. She resides in Pentagon City, Virginia and works hard educating inner city youth in Washington DC. She prides herself in being a realist. She exclaims that she is in no way, shape, form, or fashion perfect but she has accepted that she serves a perfect God who is able to do ALL things!

Direction/Guidance, Evangelism, Leadership, Mentor/Mentee, Mentoring, Teacher/Student

Remember Where You Came From…

…And the One Who Brought You Out!

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. (1 Peter 2:9 ESV)

Recently I started working with a group of girls at an elementary school in a poverty stricken neighborhood. The group that I work with is in sixth through eighth grade. Twice a week for an hour, we get together for empowering sessions. The sessions are on a wide range of topics from financial empowerment to self-esteem empowerment. Upon first meeting the girls, I was a bit taken aback. For such a young group of girls, they seemed to be very forward and extremely boy crazy. Everything that came out of their mouth was something perverse or vulgar. I couldn’t believe how comfortable they were tossing subliminal sexual messages around in my presence. It was almost as if all they wanted to discuss were things that were associated with the opposite sex. Again, I was nearly appalled at some of the things the girls were asking and telling me.  When leaving that session, I got in my car and had a quick pow wow with the man upstairs. Knowing that He sent me on this assignment, I reminded Him that I was going to need His assistance to be effective as the task at hand. Many questions started swimming around in my mind. A few of them went like this: How did they get like this? What type of parents do they have? At this rate, will they be successful in high school? Why are they so into boys at such a young age?

With absolutely no answers and still a boat load of questions, I solicited my weekly prayer partner for assistance. As she prayed for my strength, wisdom and courage to deal with the girls, I nodded my head in agreement. However, as she continued on asking God to remind me of how far I’d come and to remove any judgment on my part, I had to open one eye. Surely, she wasn’t talking about me! Oh, but surely she was! I was instantly convicted; for a moment in time, I was looking down on those young girls. There I was casting judgment on girls who reflected pieces of me. At some point in my life, I was exactly who they are now…it’s just no one knew about it. At some low era of my existence, I did the very things that they were discussing so freely…I was just never caught! I shared with you just last week a laundry list of things that I was guilty of. (See She is Me: Lydia) With a rap sheet like that, how dare I look down on those girls!

Besides the fact that God truly loves us, do you know why He even bothered saving us? It was so that we could be useful to the building of His Kingdom.  “For God saved us and called us to live a holy life. He did this, not because we deserved it, but because that was his plan from before the beginning of time–to show us his grace through Christ Jesus.” (2 Timothy 1:9 NLT)  Every single thing that we have experienced in life was not just for our own development; it was to benefit God’s people as well. There is someone, somewhere that needs to hear YOUR testimony. In my case, those girls need to know that I have walked in their shoes before and I know what dark places those paths lead to. With the right balance of love, honesty and firmness, I can help deter them from walking the path of death. But, if we get too arrogant or puffed up with pride, we miss the opportunity to minister and deliver those who are in captivity.

Many Bible readers are familiar with the header scripture. We love to proclaim that we are ‘a chosen nation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation’. But the part that seems to get tossed to wayside is the latter part of that verse.  You are His possession and were chosen that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. Yes, He called me from that dark, grungy place of promiscuity, lust, fornication, drugs, alcoholism, etc. into the brighter place of salvation, forgiveness, love, redemption and restoration. However, it’s more important WHY He called me from that hopeless place—to help others who are in currently in that dark space and cannot see the way out for themselves.

I am determined now more than ever to make an indelible impact on those young ladies. I understand more fully just how important my story is to the next person. So, the next time God sends a lowly soul to you, please don’t rest in the seat of judgment.  Remember where you came from and the One who brought you from that place. Extend the same love that He extended to you. You may be the only person standing between them and salvation and/or deliverance.

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for the times that I placed judgment or looked down on one of Your children. When there is someone struggling with an issue, help me to embrace them the same way that You embraced me when I dealt with my issues. Teach me unconditional love that covers a multitude of sins. Lord, I ask that You send people to me who I can minister to based on the things that I have experienced in my life. Give me the courage to share my testimony so that others may come to know Your healing power. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you remember where you came from! Recall that you used to be in that dark place and recall how God transitioned you into His marvelous light. With that on your brain, I EMPOWER you to minister to those who are still in that place. Who better to help them than one has walked a few miles in their shoes? Remember, they shall overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimonies! (Revelation 12:11)

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Dont Leave Them, Lead Them!

Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant.  She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments.  As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and two lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

Leadership, Purpose, She is Me Series, Trusting God

She is Me: Deborah

In honor of National Women’s History Month, EmpowerMoments is featuring a special series called ‘She is Me’.  Each writer will parallel her own life with that of a Biblical woman to enlighten and EMPOWER youCheers to being a WOMAN!

Standing Firm on Purpose

Now Deborah, a prophet, the wife of Lappidoth, was leading Israel at that time…She sent for Barak son of Abinoam from Kedesh in Naphtali and said to him, “The LORD, the God of Israel, commands you: ‘Go, take with you ten thousand men of Naphtali and Zebulun and lead them up to Mount Tabor. I will lead Sisera, the commander of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his troops to the Kishon River and give him into your hands.’”

Barak said to her, “If you go with me, I will go; but if you don’t go with me, I won’t go.”

“Certainly I will go with you,” said Deborah. “But because of the course you are taking, the honor will not be yours, for the LORD will deliver Sisera into the hands of a woman.” So Deborah went with Barak to Kedesh. (Judges 4:4, 6-9 NIV)

Oh, the power of being a woman centered in her relationship and purpose in Christ! I have a confession to make: I am not there, just yet. I grew up with a traditional-minded father and a very untraditional-minded mother. What seemed like an odd mix to the world (and probably to my parents) produced a pretty even-tempered child. My dad said that there were certain jobs that a man should do and my mom challenged most of those views. For as long as I can remember, my mom has worked two jobs and she will spend her very last if she thinks it will be of benefit to her family. She’s strong, goal oriented and a bit stubborn. And in many ways I am just like her. With this dual dynamic at home, I grew up wondering how to balance being strong yet submissive.

I shied away from things that seemed more like what my “man” would handle, which has been to my determent. I am a firm believer that you can’t always wait on a man to be there or do something for you. You need to make sure that if and when the time comes that you need to, you can take care of yourself. That’s being a responsible steward. But because I didn’t want to come across as too “bossy” I tried to stay away from things that might make me seem like the stereotypical, ‘I don’t need a man’ Black woman. What does that even look like anyway? I’m still unsure, but that fear has now led me to being hesitant about what I know God is trying to do in my life. There are certain things like purchasing a car or home that I thought I would leave up to my husband to make the final decision. I mean, I am a woman and don’t guys know about all those technical things? I’ve used the ‘I am a woman’ phrase to get out of anything that seemed bigger than me or anything that didn’t seem to fit with the “traditional” views. Yet, my Father kept placing me in leadership roles. At first I shied away from these roles. I mean being the head of a household leading a small child (a boy nonetheless) was a daunting enough task. Now, God was placing me in leadership roles at work, among my peers, and in my graduate classes! The more I resisted, the more God kept pressing into me until I could do nothing else but submit.

See, like Deborah there are people in my life that will not go on without me. They need me to stand up with them. They need that encouragement, that prayer, that one person who believes in the impossible for them. For many people in my life, that person is me. I am unsure of how I get the positions that God has graced me with; I don’t strive for them. In fact, many times the very idea of the task shakes me to my core. That is when God gently reminds me that I glorify Him when I step out on His Word. I glorify Him when I don’t let my fears, my gender biased ideas or doubts stop me from standing on purpose.

You have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.
– Katherine Center

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for blessing me with the gift and purpose of being a woman. I was created at such a time as this, there is purpose hidden deep inside. Bring me closer to You so that I may become closer to finding myself. Gift me with the spirit of love and peace and help me to be unafraid of the path laid out before me. Give me Your strength to stand confidently in my purpose. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to seek and embrace your purpose. Do not let fear, stereotypes, or doubt hold you back from your true destiny in Christ.

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Ms. Renee` N. Chaffin is a single mother who has a heart for helping those less fortunate. She has been active in the non-profit sector, whether through volunteerism or professionally, for the past six years.  She is passionate about sharing the love of God, her testimony and empowering people to discover their true potential that was bestowed on them by King of the Universe. Renee` is currently pursuing a Master’s in Public Administration. While on her pursuit of higher education, she is on a seven year journey to challenge God to do ‘exceedingly and abundantly above all she can imagine’ in seven areas over the next seven years. Check out her journey at Her favorite scripture is I Peter 5:6: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.”