Black Music Month Series, Faith, God's Love, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Marriage, Obedience, Patience, Relationships, Singleness, Trusting God

What God Has For Me Is Mine!

In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.” (Ephesians 1:11-12 NIV)

Currently I am in a transition in my career, my education, and my home. In addition, our family dynamics are also changing. I noticed as the transitions approached, I became worried about so many things. Which college should I pick? Will we have enough money to live? Where should we live? What about day care, pediatricians, and health insurance? I mean the list just went on and on until God reminded me of Ephesians 1:11. He reminded me, “Daughter, you are predestined for greatness. When I allow you to face trials or transitions, I know the ending and the beginning all at the same time, even before you came to me with your plans and desires.” In His word He called us PRE-DESTINED! By definition predestined means, an outcome or course of events have been determined in advance by divine will.

He tells us not to worry because He works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will…” (Ephesians 1:11 NIV).  He also said in Jeremiah, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV) Who can block God’s plan? No one. It can be hindered, interrupted, and agitated but it can NOT be blocked!

I did all of this planning and organizing for our family’s move to our new city, but God had to show me that what He has for me is far greater than my plan. “My plan” was for me to switch to the Doctorate Program in Microbiology, purchase our home (because “I” rationalized that we would be there at least 5 years), and live happily ever after. But since God already KNOWS the ending, I was cautious to hear His direction waited to actually see His plan unfold.  I am just in awe at how perfect it is. I’m continuing in Higher Education with my Doctorate in this field. I will be working part time and currently we will be in a short-term rental until my husband graduates. If you would have told me this last year I wouldn’t believe it, but it’s the best plan God could have provided. I can be home more with our family; I can volunteer in the community because my program is online; I can emotionally support my husband through school and nurture our daughter…ALL AT THE SAME TIME!

So when you go on your next job interview, walk in the boldness of knowing that if God wants you to have that job, it’s already yours. Prepare for greatness and perform accordingly. Paul reminds us in God’s word “In all things God works for the good of those who love him…” (Romans 8:28 NIV)

When you go on your next date, realize that if that man is to be your husband, God will make it so. You don’t have to do anything extra other than make yourself pleasing in God’s eyes. For His Word says, “But seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33 KJV)

The next time you and your husband work on your family plan, realize that even if he makes a mistake in execution, God has it ALREADY worked out, even before the first step is taken. How do I know this? Because his wife has prayed that the Lord orders her husband’s steps. The prayer of a righteous man (or wife) is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16 NIV) HALLELUJAH!!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for reminding me that what You have for me, no one can take it away. Help me to walk in that confidence. Also help me to be sensitive to Your directions for my life so that I may walk accordingly. When I have needs and desires that do not align with Your will, teach me how to rest in knowing that if I delight myself in You, You will give me the desires of my heart. (Psalm 37:4) In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Sistah Girl, every opportunity whether failure or victory is an opportunity to learn and grow. I EMPOWER you to walk in the faith that “what God has for you is for you, and you only.” In the same breath, what God does NOT have for you is NOT yours! Take the time today to listen to what God has for you and pray to Him that your steps are ordered by Him. “Trust in the Lord, with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and he shall direct your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV)

On the last day of Black Music Month, be empowered by “It is For Me” by the Miami Mass Choir:

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

Black Music Month Series, Patience, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

Single in the City 3: Ready for Love

As I’ve stated twice before, one of the hardest challenges I’ve ever encountered was being a single, Christian woman but I never mentioned the hardest event to attend as a single woman…WEDDINGS!!  A few weeks ago a friend from college met his beautiful bride at the altar to exchange vows before God, family, and loved ones.  Truthfully, I was very happy for him but I could not help but to think about my future husband. 

Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions but it is very easy to lose focus as a single guest.  As the ceremony commenced I was deeply involved in a dispute with God in my head.  I eagerly questioned God when was it going to be my turn?  Where is my husband?  When am I going to be able to start planning my dream wedding?  Why everyone else and not me? I desperately wanted God to know that I am READY FOR LOVE!!

Just as India Arie poured her heart out on the lyrics to that song, I poured my heart out to God.  The entire wedding was a bit much for me as my emotions were torn.  Eventually I put aside my feelings and decided to chime in on the celebration.  However, once the wedding was over and I was on my way home, I chose to have a real conversation with Jesus and not just a one-sided interview like before.

As I drove back to Nashville, He revealed something to me that was a slap in the face.  “And the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God, and into the patient waiting of Christ.” (2 Thessalonians 3:5 KJV)  It was at that moment that I realized that I can be READY for love forever but being patient for it is what God expects.  Since God knows the true desires of my heart, why was I questioning the arrival of my husband?  He is in control of the situation but clearly I have not let it go.  The real issue is that sometimes we have to surrender it over to Jesus and let it be while still having the patience to wait for Him to deliver on His promises. 

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for Your promises.  I know that what You have for me is for me but I pray for the patience to wait for it.  I understand that You have already worked it out but I ask that You help me to stay in position until it is released.  Lord, I pray for the obedience to surrender it to You and allow You to have Your way without question. I am READY for a lot of things but I pray for the patience to wait on my God to see me worthy of it.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, single or married, I encourage each of you to EMPOWER yourself and others to be patient in your situation.  Remember God created you so He personally knows your long lists of wants. He is just waiting for the opportunity to increase your territory but are you going to be patient enough to wait it out?   

Continuing our Black Music Month party, enjoy India Arie’s “Ready for Love”:

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Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Black Music Month Series, Growth/Maturity, Marriage, Relationships, Singleness, Soul Ties, Spiritual Therapy

Ain’t No Feeling Like…

Several years ago, I met a guy in college that completely changed my life. Let’s call him “Z”. He was never my boyfriend but we shared a special bond that literally made us inseparable. We spent almost every waking (and sleeping) moment together. Z and I scheduled classes together because we just wanted to be together. We conversed day in and out about social, political, religious, and pop cultural issues. Therefore, our minds were tied together. The endless time we spent together caused our hearts to intertwine. Our bodies were connected because of our sinful sexual acts and ultimately our souls became one because of all of those other connections. I was really okay with that because in my mind Z was my soul mate (even though God told me on SEVERAL occasions that we didn’t have a future together). As I said before, I had nearly everything from this man: his mind, his heart, his body and his soul but there was key component missing from the equation…I didn’t have his commitment. And it wasn’t that he couldn’t or wouldn’t commit to a woman because he was in fact committed–to someone else…

Long after this “relationship” ended, Z still occupied my heart, mind and soul. It seemed like the harder I tried to let him go, the more I was drawn to him. Some days I felt as if we were really meant to be together (and God would QUICKLY snap me back to reality.) Why couldn’t I just shake this dude? After all, I was an intelligent, successful, Godly woman who was now in a relationship with a man who loved me and vowed to commit the rest of his life to me. Well hundreds of tears and heartaches later, it finally clicked. I was trying to undo a spiritual tie with my natural power. Alas, I had the keys to unlock my soul from this prison that it was trapped in! How many of us know that we have no future with the “Z” in our life and that we need to walk away but just can’t seem to do it? Well sisters, it’s time to sever those ungodly soul ties and I’ve been assigned to help you do it:

  • Step #1: Repent of any sins involving the two of you. Think deeply about this. I made the mistake of just repenting of fornication but there were so many other things that took place during our relationship that were contrary to the Word of God. If you can’t recall, ask the Holy Spirit to bring everything to your remembrance that needs to be addressed.
  • Step #2: Forgive the person of any wrongdoings against you. You will never be able to release him if you walk around carrying negative feelings about the way he hurt you. I had to forgive Z for rejecting me and not choosing to be with me before I could really move on. If you have forgiveness issues, please refer to Pierced.
  • Step #3: Renounce any covenants you made with him. I used to tell Z that “I would love him forever” and that “I wanted to be with him always.” Remember the Word of God says that the words that leave your mouth have POWER. (Proverbs 18:21) You have to cancel every spoken word that binds you to that person.
  • Step #4: Get rid of any gifts from that person. I know that some of you are reading this with the side-eye but believe what I tell you. At some point, Z gave me a t-shirt. I LOVED this t-shirt because it represented where I was from—Chi-Town! I didn’t even realize that holding on to this shirt was keeping a piece of this man in my life. And get this—I only wore the shirt to sleep so every time I got in the bed with my husband, I was taking Z with me! Needless to say, once I got this revelation, I cut it up and threw it away! Get rid of the gifts; God will replace what you sacrifice in obedience.
  •  Step #5: Renounce and break the soul tie in Jesus’ name. This is the final and most important step. Open your mouth and verbally say: “I now renounce and loose myself from any ungodly soul ties formed between _________ and me, and I break these ungodly soul ties in Jesus’ name.” Now take a deep breath and exhale, you have released him!

With Jesus and through His name, you can break every ungodly soul tie! “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36 NIV)  Prayerfully, now that your soul is out of that knot, you feel free. And honey, I tell you aint no feeling like being free!

Dear Daddy,

Help me to recognize soul ties that are not ordained by You. Then give me the will and power to break them in Jesus’ name. I want to be free! I thank You in advance for filling any empty places that will occur as a result of releasing him. Thank You for Your unfailing love! In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Ladies, I just told you ALL of my business to EMPOWER you to let him go! Free your soul by undoing the knot that was left behind. EMPOWER your sisters by praying for them to be free!

P.S. Stay tuned–more of this story to come in my upcoming book!

Celebrate Black Music Month and your soul’s freedom with Destiny Child’s “Free”

Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant.  She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments.  As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible more than anything. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and two lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Trusting God

Single in the City 2

As I stated in part 1 of the series, being a SINGLE Christian woman is one of the hardest things that I have ever done.  In the past few weeks I decided to continue going on dates in hopes of finding someone that was genuinely worthy of my time.  I may have found a qualified candidate but it comes at a cost!  With that said let’s take a moment to recap on this encounter…

John Doe was a great guy!  The number one requirement was fulfilled — a personal relationship with Jesus!! Hallelujah!! Finally, a man that is on my level! The lunch was awesome from that point because that was the first topic we discussed and I can honestly say it set the precedent for the afternoon.  However, the entire time I kept looking at the awful shirt that he had on and my attention was taken away from our deep conversation.  By the end of the date I was so intrigued by him that I forgot about the awful pastel short sleeve plaid shirt… until we stood to exit the restaurant and I realized he actually had shoes to match this dreadful ensemble!  It was then that I asked myself am I willing to look past his apparent lack of “SWAG” and see his potential because of his “God-swag”?

 “…and the veil shall divide unto you between the holy place and the most holy.” (Exodus 26:33 KJV) I decided to use this bible verse to bring to light the fact that my superficial way of thinking allowed me to believe that it would never work between me and him but God may just be using it to show me otherwise.  The veil is used to separate what God has already established as holy, so who am I to even question it. 

I’ve decided that I will go out with him again because I would hate for that hideous outfit to block what God may have put in place to be a blessing.  Don’t get me wrong, I plan on going into this one cautiously but I never know what this brother might have to offer.  His Christian resume’ checked twice as well as every other prerequisite on my clip board, so why not?  I refuse to jump to conclusions and give every random John Doe a pass, but I must start looking myself in the mirror to check my true G-swag! Single ladies, so often we profess that we are READY for our future husbands but will we pass him up because of his veil (money, looks, etc)?

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being my mirror.   I check my appearance in the natural daily, but how I look in the spiritual is what really matters.  Thank You for showing me the random veils that I have in place that are hindering me from seeing more of You.  Lord, I pray that I am able to distinguish between Your marvelous works and my one-sided view points.  Daddy, I never know what You have in store for me and I refuse to miss it because of my distorted outlook. Just have Your way Lord! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

To all my beautiful ladies waiting to jump the broom I encourage you to EMPOWER each other to put down the mile long checklist and allow God to show you what He has beyond the obvious.  He may not be what you would consider Mr. Right but God has a purpose for Him and in due time He will let you in on the secret.  Have a blessed week ladies!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Marriage, Patience, Relationships, Singleness

Let HIM Drive

I absolutely love having relationship conversations with men. They give you so much insight into the way they view things versus the narrow view from our own lens.  A guy once told me that if a woman could learn a different way to say what needs to be said to a man, she would not meet so much resistance. In other words, it’s not what you say; it’s how you say it.

A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18 (NIV)

Well I had something to say. I was frustrated about the way things were going in the relationship. As I contemplated how to approach this needed conversation without causing a ruckus, someone told me that I should to stop trying to drive all of the time. …And there was my word…

“Some time ago, you asked me to go on a trip with you. Although only you know the final destination, I willingly accepted my place in the passenger’s seat. Along this journey, I expected a few challenges and a couple of obstacles but nothing that was impassable. To ensure optimal vehicle performance and a comfortable ride, there would have to be some investments in maintenance and at the very least we would have to continue to fuel up along the ride. Knowing these things, I gladly came along for the ride; however, somewhere along the way, I hopped out of the passenger’s seat and began to drive. You never asked me to but for whatever reason I took over the trip. Maybe I didn’t see us headed in the right direction or any direction. Maybe we weren’t getting there fast enough. Maybe I became anxious and didn’t trust you so I began to take control. Maybe I thought you were asleep at the wheel and knew I needed to drive to get us safely to our destination. Whatever my reason for driving, I have realized the error of my ways. I am getting out of the driver’s seat and taking my rightful place as a passenger. I will be here to help keep you awake and help you navigate tough terrain,but I am going to let you drive. If at any time I feel as though I am not safe in this car or that you came ill prepared for the trip, I am getting out of the car.” He gently replied, “I understand.”

2 And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, “Let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favor…. 8 So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. 9 … I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.” 14 At mealtime Boaz said to her, “Come over here. Have some bread and dip it in the wine vinegar.” When she sat down with the harvesters, he offered her some roasted grain. She ate all she wanted and had some left over. 15 As she got up to glean, Boaz gave orders to his men, “Let her gather among the sheaves and don’t reprimand her. 16 Even pull out some stalks for her from the bundles and leave them for her to pick up, and don’t rebuke her.” Ruth 2: 2, 8-9, 14-16 (NIV) 

The story of Ruth is often used to illustrate how a woman should prepare herself to find a husband and put herself out there; however, in this text we see that prior to Ruth getting all perfumed up and lying at Boaz’s feet on the threshing floor, he had already jumped in the driver’s seat and began to act upon his interest in her. He showed Ruth that he was able to provide for her and was ready to drive. Ladies, in this follow-up to Heartbreak Hotel have you ever found yourself mentally and physically drained because you decided to drive when you really were supposed to be a passenger? Learn to be a good passenger because you need to know that the person you are with is FULLY capable of driving. Sometimes our yearning for companionship and impatient nature turns into subtle manipulation, control, and recurring frustration and sometimes we drive because we are trying to prevent the inevitable. We don’t mean any harm. We just want the trip to go smoothly; however, taking leadership when you should be following can be dangerous in a relationship.  This is true not only in relationships with men but also in our relationships with God.  Who better to trust in this journey called life than someone who knows the end before the beginning?

If you find that you have gotten in the wrong car with the wrong person and are going on the wrong trip, by all means find another method of transportation; however, if your only issues stem from the fact that you are a card carrying member of Control Freaks Anonymous – sit back, keep the driver awake, take a deep breath and enjoy the scenery and the ride.

Dear Daddy, 

Teach me the duties of a great passenger so that I can let the driver do the driving. Help me to recognize when the driver has fallen asleep at the wheel or they are headed in the wrong direction. Give me the words to say that will encourage the driver and if it be Your will Lord, give me the courage to get out of the car if I’m in the wrong car with the wrong driver. God help me to realize when I am driving in areas of my life where I definitely need to be the passenger in YOUR car. Thanks in advance for helping me with this very important stage in my development. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Ladies EMPOWER yourselves and evaluate your own life. Are you driving when you really should be riding? EMPOWER yourself to be a great passenger and assistant to the driver. If you have wandered into the car with the wrong driver, EMPOWER yourself to GET OUT!

P.S. Ladies I don’t know why God has me on this relationship kick but apparently there is someone out there who needs this word.

 Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. This week she is leaning on Proverbs 3:5  Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

Growth/Maturity, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy

Single in the City

Over the course of the week I have been wondering what my Empowermoment would be about.  The last few weeks were easy to start and finish because of the abundant blessings that were falling from above right into my lap!  This week I am still being blessed but nothing in particular stood out.

Then it hit me, I have been getting attacked from the enemy and did not pay it much attention.  For the past seven days I have had ongoing troubles with the opposite sex.  Just for clarification purposes, I told you all a few weeks back that I had restored my relationship with God after being in a two year situation that had no purpose. I decided to go back to the drawing board and start just DATING!

I must admit the dating game changes dramatically once you begin an intimate walk with Jesus. There are certain characteristics that I am seeking and I am unwilling to budge on them!  A prime example is that the next person that I enter a serious relationship with MUST have a relationship with Christ.  Finding someone with those credentials is a huge challenge!

I already know what you’re thinking… I am not supposed to find my husband he is supposed to find me. I get that but apparently this meaningless dating is just that meaningless. I have yet to meet anyone who is half way equally yoked with me.  But the word of God reminded me that “I am the truevine, and my father is the husbandman.” (John 15:1)  I must stay connected to the truevine and be in close relationship with Jesus BEFORE Mr. Right shows up.

In the past I made many mistakes by allowing the men in my life to consume my every waking moment when in reality that is where God is to be.  Being a single Christian woman is one of the hardest obstacles that I have to encounter in life.  Some days I am so filled with the goodness of Jesus that a husband is the last thing on my mind.  Other days, I am so lonely, yearning for the company or affection of the opposite sex that I want to cry.  This is truly an upward battle but I am determined to make it to the top of the hill.  Just the other day, in the midst of it all I had to say this prayer:

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for being the LOVE of my life!! I am determined to keep my mind stayed on you while you prepare me for my future spouse.  Just as you are molding me, I know that he is on the potter’s wheel as well and staying connected to you is how he will find me.  Please continue to wrap your arms around me when the spirit of loneliness tries to fester that I might not waste my time with insignificant relationships but rather fine tune ours! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

There is more to come on this saga but for now I urge all of the single Christian women to EMPOWER yourself to let go and be with God.  Society makes us feel as if we are worthless without a spouse but in reality we have the BEST MAN waiting on us to get on our knees for some quality time!  To all the married Christian women, I encourage you to EMPOWER yourself to look past the small stuff your better half does to get under your skin.  Trust me this single life is NOT all it’s cracked up to be!!! Have a blessed week ladies!     

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She is a full time Workforce Analyst with Sprint Communications in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Obedience, Relationships, Singleness, Soul Ties

Only He Can Fill The Voids

A year ago this month I ended one of the most UNHEALTHY relationships I ever allowed myself to be apart of.  I allowed this man to consume my everything, leaving little room for Jesus to have His way in my life.  At that time, I did not understand what it was or maybe I was just ignoring it for the two and a half years that we were together.

At the end of 2009, while talking to my cousin, I had an epiphany that rattled my spirit for sure…I realized that I didn’t like being ALONE!!  I started to reminisce and discovered that I had been feeling this way for a while and it was greater than just this man!  I never did anything by myself!  I always felt as if I needed someone there with me no matter what it was and because this man was willing to do everything with me I allowed him to. 

“I will never leave thee, or forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5)  The whole time I was nervous about being alone my God already knew my true feelings and was right there with open arms to comfort me.  I was so wrapped up in having a companion in the natural that I forgot that my spiritual Father was with me all along. 

After that chat with my roommate, Jesus told me that “He has not given me the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”  (2 Timothy 1:7) So I pulled it together slowly and I did what needed to be done!  Over the next few months I started to pull away from this person and find my own with Jesus!  I had let the fear of being by myself take over and lose sight of who was in charge the entire time. God was the pilot and I was merely a flight assistant and once I started letting Him take control things fell right in line. 

Dear Daddy,

Thank You again for opening up my mind, body, and spirit to shed light on my situation!  I was in a very dark place and did not even know.  The enemy had so much control over me that I felt I needed companionship to fill that emptiness but in reality I only needed You.  You are my everything and I am content with knowing and believing that.  I ask that You fill any and all voids with your LOVE that surpasses all—that AGAPE LOVE!!!  What more can I ask for?! Have your way! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I encourage you to realize the voids in your life that you are trying to fill with people and stuff.  Instead of using things in the natural, tap into the spiritual realm and EMPOWER yourself with the uncompromising message of Jesus Christ…it’s a wonderful thing!  Have a blessed week!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She is a full time Workforce Analyst with Sprint Communications in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment  You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17