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Single in the City 5: Weak in My Knees

I get so weak in the knees I can hardly speak.
I lose all control and something takes over me.
In a daze, your love’s so amazing, it’s not a phase.
I want you to stay with me, by my side.
I swallow my pride, your love is so sweet.
It knocks me right off of my feet.
I can’t explain why your loving makes me weak.

(Lyrics from SWV’s “Weak”)

Since last month’s entry I have been speaking to several single Christian women, both family and friends.  I realized that although situations were different there was one common factor…problems with MEN!  From there I was intrigued to dig a little deeper and find out the real source of this epidemic.  It became apparent that each of us has had one or more members of the opposite sex that we had fallen weak for.

When speaking of weaknesses the mind will usually wander to that addiction to the morning cup of coffee or late night chocolate cravings but contrary to popular belief, weaknesses can come in human form!  With that said, when I refer to weakness I’m talking about that one guy that you LOVED unconditionally, no matter what.  Some of us have been with a person that was physically, verbally, and/or emotionally abusive and could not figure out exactly what the attraction was. 

Well ladies, my research has concluded that we have lost sight as to where our strength really comes from. “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV) Many of us are guilty of holding on to toxic relationships without the courage to leave.  The reason is that we have put that individual before God.  If we all just took a moment to look over that relationship’s timeline, I am certain that there is a second in history that we put him over HIM.  So not only did we choose to love him more than HIM, but more than ourselves as well.  However, the Bible reassures us that the grace Jesus gives us is more than enough to overcome any situation that arises!  We must realize that whatever empty voids that we are trying to fill by staying in such harmful circumstances, God is ready to give us the strength to endure and triumph.  Therefore, weakness is not an option for a child of God like you!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for highlighting my weaknesses especially when they cause me to lose sight of the love You have for me.  I pray that You continue to help me fill the empty holes with Your grace so that I may find the inner strength that You birthed inside me.  Lord, remind me daily that weakness is not an option for a kingdom builder!  I have great work to do for You and I must not let anyone cause me to lose focus of that.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I ask that you EMPOWER yourself to let that weakness go!  Anyone or anything that is causing you to put God second is not worth LOVING!! Love on God more!  Be Blessed! 🙂    

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Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

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Single In The City 4: The Test

A few weeks back I decided to embark on a fast, hoping that my sacrifice would open the door for God to reveal things about MYSELF that I may not be aware of.  Over the course of four days I prayed intensely, praised His name radically, and poured out my heart in an effort to find out about the real me.  During that time God showed me a few surface characteristics but the real discovery was yet to come.

Days after I returned to my regular scheduled eating routine, I received a friend request from a person I had pushed to the wayside years ago.  I received a simple “Hello” from a man that I had written off the day he broke my heart and kept it moving to the next chick.  This man that I had not seen or heard from in years managed to find me on this social networking site and instantly I remembered ALL the bad things that transpired between us when we were younger.  However, something inside of me told me to be cordial and accept the friend request. In reality, I really just wanted him to look at my pictures and know that I was the best thing he NEVER had!  Much to my surprise it was actually quite refreshing talking to him again; so much that I agreed to meet with him during my upcoming trip to Chicago.

“On the contrary: If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.  In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” (Romans 12:20 NIV) I was not aware of this man’s intent at that time but I was determined to be obedient to the word of God.  BUT…when I laid eyes on him the first thing I thought to do was re-hash all the drama to get closure for myself.  I tried to stop but the questions and sarcasm kept slipping out.  The crazy thing is he just wanted to apologize for everything and of course see if he still had a chance. NOT!

One of my best friends told me to pray prior to this reunion; luckily, I took her advice because what God had to say was astounding. “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” (Mark 11:25-NIV) I dated this guy as a teen and I never would have thought that I was STILL upset with him at 25.  Instead of me dealing with the situation back then I decided to just change my number and never look back. Although that seemed to ease my heartache, I would have never imagined that it put a wedge between me and my true love- Jesus.  I had convinced myself that I forgave him when I cut off contact but clearly my emotions were bottled up, until this encounter.

Ladies, there is no reason to bury feelings because God will bring them to the surface at random times.  Your best bet is to forgive ASAP because you never know how many blessings you miss harboring unknown negativity.  Ironically, after signing our peace treaty I have yet to hear from him. I believe I passed the test this time for sure. I accepted the facebook request but more important, I sincerely accepted his apology.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for revealing repressed feelings to me.  There are so many ways the enemy attacks that I may not catch them all but You are there to get me back on track.  Lord, thank You for being my magnifying lens and focusing in on things that drive a wedge between us.  I am far from perfect but You still love me! I pray for the ability to forgive and the strength to do so no matter what just as You have done for me so many times before.  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!

I challenge you to take a moment and EMPOWER yourself to forgive all of it… all the pain, confusion, misunderstanding, heart breaks, turmoil, and stress caused by others! If Jesus can do it daily with each of us, I know we are just as capable!!!  Be Blessed Ladies!!!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17.

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Single in the City 3: Ready for Love

As I’ve stated twice before, one of the hardest challenges I’ve ever encountered was being a single, Christian woman but I never mentioned the hardest event to attend as a single woman…WEDDINGS!!  A few weeks ago a friend from college met his beautiful bride at the altar to exchange vows before God, family, and loved ones.  Truthfully, I was very happy for him but I could not help but to think about my future husband. 

Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions but it is very easy to lose focus as a single guest.  As the ceremony commenced I was deeply involved in a dispute with God in my head.  I eagerly questioned God when was it going to be my turn?  Where is my husband?  When am I going to be able to start planning my dream wedding?  Why everyone else and not me? I desperately wanted God to know that I am READY FOR LOVE!!

Just as India Arie poured her heart out on the lyrics to that song, I poured my heart out to God.  The entire wedding was a bit much for me as my emotions were torn.  Eventually I put aside my feelings and decided to chime in on the celebration.  However, once the wedding was over and I was on my way home, I chose to have a real conversation with Jesus and not just a one-sided interview like before.

As I drove back to Nashville, He revealed something to me that was a slap in the face.  “And the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God, and into the patient waiting of Christ.” (2 Thessalonians 3:5 KJV)  It was at that moment that I realized that I can be READY for love forever but being patient for it is what God expects.  Since God knows the true desires of my heart, why was I questioning the arrival of my husband?  He is in control of the situation but clearly I have not let it go.  The real issue is that sometimes we have to surrender it over to Jesus and let it be while still having the patience to wait for Him to deliver on His promises. 

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for Your promises.  I know that what You have for me is for me but I pray for the patience to wait for it.  I understand that You have already worked it out but I ask that You help me to stay in position until it is released.  Lord, I pray for the obedience to surrender it to You and allow You to have Your way without question. I am READY for a lot of things but I pray for the patience to wait on my God to see me worthy of it.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, single or married, I encourage each of you to EMPOWER yourself and others to be patient in your situation.  Remember God created you so He personally knows your long lists of wants. He is just waiting for the opportunity to increase your territory but are you going to be patient enough to wait it out?   

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Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Trusting God

Single in the City 2

As I stated in part 1 of the series, being a SINGLE Christian woman is one of the hardest things that I have ever done.  In the past few weeks I decided to continue going on dates in hopes of finding someone that was genuinely worthy of my time.  I may have found a qualified candidate but it comes at a cost!  With that said let’s take a moment to recap on this encounter…

John Doe was a great guy!  The number one requirement was fulfilled — a personal relationship with Jesus!! Hallelujah!! Finally, a man that is on my level! The lunch was awesome from that point because that was the first topic we discussed and I can honestly say it set the precedent for the afternoon.  However, the entire time I kept looking at the awful shirt that he had on and my attention was taken away from our deep conversation.  By the end of the date I was so intrigued by him that I forgot about the awful pastel short sleeve plaid shirt… until we stood to exit the restaurant and I realized he actually had shoes to match this dreadful ensemble!  It was then that I asked myself am I willing to look past his apparent lack of “SWAG” and see his potential because of his “God-swag”?

 “…and the veil shall divide unto you between the holy place and the most holy.” (Exodus 26:33 KJV) I decided to use this bible verse to bring to light the fact that my superficial way of thinking allowed me to believe that it would never work between me and him but God may just be using it to show me otherwise.  The veil is used to separate what God has already established as holy, so who am I to even question it. 

I’ve decided that I will go out with him again because I would hate for that hideous outfit to block what God may have put in place to be a blessing.  Don’t get me wrong, I plan on going into this one cautiously but I never know what this brother might have to offer.  His Christian resume’ checked twice as well as every other prerequisite on my clip board, so why not?  I refuse to jump to conclusions and give every random John Doe a pass, but I must start looking myself in the mirror to check my true G-swag! Single ladies, so often we profess that we are READY for our future husbands but will we pass him up because of his veil (money, looks, etc)?

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being my mirror.   I check my appearance in the natural daily, but how I look in the spiritual is what really matters.  Thank You for showing me the random veils that I have in place that are hindering me from seeing more of You.  Lord, I pray that I am able to distinguish between Your marvelous works and my one-sided view points.  Daddy, I never know what You have in store for me and I refuse to miss it because of my distorted outlook. Just have Your way Lord! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

To all my beautiful ladies waiting to jump the broom I encourage you to EMPOWER each other to put down the mile long checklist and allow God to show you what He has beyond the obvious.  He may not be what you would consider Mr. Right but God has a purpose for Him and in due time He will let you in on the secret.  Have a blessed week ladies!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Growth/Maturity, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy

Single in the City

Over the course of the week I have been wondering what my Empowermoment would be about.  The last few weeks were easy to start and finish because of the abundant blessings that were falling from above right into my lap!  This week I am still being blessed but nothing in particular stood out.

Then it hit me, I have been getting attacked from the enemy and did not pay it much attention.  For the past seven days I have had ongoing troubles with the opposite sex.  Just for clarification purposes, I told you all a few weeks back that I had restored my relationship with God after being in a two year situation that had no purpose. I decided to go back to the drawing board and start just DATING!

I must admit the dating game changes dramatically once you begin an intimate walk with Jesus. There are certain characteristics that I am seeking and I am unwilling to budge on them!  A prime example is that the next person that I enter a serious relationship with MUST have a relationship with Christ.  Finding someone with those credentials is a huge challenge!

I already know what you’re thinking… I am not supposed to find my husband he is supposed to find me. I get that but apparently this meaningless dating is just that meaningless. I have yet to meet anyone who is half way equally yoked with me.  But the word of God reminded me that “I am the truevine, and my father is the husbandman.” (John 15:1)  I must stay connected to the truevine and be in close relationship with Jesus BEFORE Mr. Right shows up.

In the past I made many mistakes by allowing the men in my life to consume my every waking moment when in reality that is where God is to be.  Being a single Christian woman is one of the hardest obstacles that I have to encounter in life.  Some days I am so filled with the goodness of Jesus that a husband is the last thing on my mind.  Other days, I am so lonely, yearning for the company or affection of the opposite sex that I want to cry.  This is truly an upward battle but I am determined to make it to the top of the hill.  Just the other day, in the midst of it all I had to say this prayer:

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for being the LOVE of my life!! I am determined to keep my mind stayed on you while you prepare me for my future spouse.  Just as you are molding me, I know that he is on the potter’s wheel as well and staying connected to you is how he will find me.  Please continue to wrap your arms around me when the spirit of loneliness tries to fester that I might not waste my time with insignificant relationships but rather fine tune ours! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

There is more to come on this saga but for now I urge all of the single Christian women to EMPOWER yourself to let go and be with God.  Society makes us feel as if we are worthless without a spouse but in reality we have the BEST MAN waiting on us to get on our knees for some quality time!  To all the married Christian women, I encourage you to EMPOWER yourself to look past the small stuff your better half does to get under your skin.  Trust me this single life is NOT all it’s cracked up to be!!! Have a blessed week ladies!     

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She is a full time Workforce Analyst with Sprint Communications in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17