Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Trusting God

Single in the City 2

As I stated in part 1 of the series, being a SINGLE Christian woman is one of the hardest things that I have ever done.  In the past few weeks I decided to continue going on dates in hopes of finding someone that was genuinely worthy of my time.  I may have found a qualified candidate but it comes at a cost!  With that said let’s take a moment to recap on this encounter…

John Doe was a great guy!  The number one requirement was fulfilled — a personal relationship with Jesus!! Hallelujah!! Finally, a man that is on my level! The lunch was awesome from that point because that was the first topic we discussed and I can honestly say it set the precedent for the afternoon.  However, the entire time I kept looking at the awful shirt that he had on and my attention was taken away from our deep conversation.  By the end of the date I was so intrigued by him that I forgot about the awful pastel short sleeve plaid shirt… until we stood to exit the restaurant and I realized he actually had shoes to match this dreadful ensemble!  It was then that I asked myself am I willing to look past his apparent lack of “SWAG” and see his potential because of his “God-swag”?

 “…and the veil shall divide unto you between the holy place and the most holy.” (Exodus 26:33 KJV) I decided to use this bible verse to bring to light the fact that my superficial way of thinking allowed me to believe that it would never work between me and him but God may just be using it to show me otherwise.  The veil is used to separate what God has already established as holy, so who am I to even question it. 

I’ve decided that I will go out with him again because I would hate for that hideous outfit to block what God may have put in place to be a blessing.  Don’t get me wrong, I plan on going into this one cautiously but I never know what this brother might have to offer.  His Christian resume’ checked twice as well as every other prerequisite on my clip board, so why not?  I refuse to jump to conclusions and give every random John Doe a pass, but I must start looking myself in the mirror to check my true G-swag! Single ladies, so often we profess that we are READY for our future husbands but will we pass him up because of his veil (money, looks, etc)?

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being my mirror.   I check my appearance in the natural daily, but how I look in the spiritual is what really matters.  Thank You for showing me the random veils that I have in place that are hindering me from seeing more of You.  Lord, I pray that I am able to distinguish between Your marvelous works and my one-sided view points.  Daddy, I never know what You have in store for me and I refuse to miss it because of my distorted outlook. Just have Your way Lord! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

To all my beautiful ladies waiting to jump the broom I encourage you to EMPOWER each other to put down the mile long checklist and allow God to show you what He has beyond the obvious.  He may not be what you would consider Mr. Right but God has a purpose for Him and in due time He will let you in on the secret.  Have a blessed week ladies!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Growth/Maturity, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy

Single in the City

Over the course of the week I have been wondering what my Empowermoment would be about.  The last few weeks were easy to start and finish because of the abundant blessings that were falling from above right into my lap!  This week I am still being blessed but nothing in particular stood out.

Then it hit me, I have been getting attacked from the enemy and did not pay it much attention.  For the past seven days I have had ongoing troubles with the opposite sex.  Just for clarification purposes, I told you all a few weeks back that I had restored my relationship with God after being in a two year situation that had no purpose. I decided to go back to the drawing board and start just DATING!

I must admit the dating game changes dramatically once you begin an intimate walk with Jesus. There are certain characteristics that I am seeking and I am unwilling to budge on them!  A prime example is that the next person that I enter a serious relationship with MUST have a relationship with Christ.  Finding someone with those credentials is a huge challenge!

I already know what you’re thinking… I am not supposed to find my husband he is supposed to find me. I get that but apparently this meaningless dating is just that meaningless. I have yet to meet anyone who is half way equally yoked with me.  But the word of God reminded me that “I am the truevine, and my father is the husbandman.” (John 15:1)  I must stay connected to the truevine and be in close relationship with Jesus BEFORE Mr. Right shows up.

In the past I made many mistakes by allowing the men in my life to consume my every waking moment when in reality that is where God is to be.  Being a single Christian woman is one of the hardest obstacles that I have to encounter in life.  Some days I am so filled with the goodness of Jesus that a husband is the last thing on my mind.  Other days, I am so lonely, yearning for the company or affection of the opposite sex that I want to cry.  This is truly an upward battle but I am determined to make it to the top of the hill.  Just the other day, in the midst of it all I had to say this prayer:

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for being the LOVE of my life!! I am determined to keep my mind stayed on you while you prepare me for my future spouse.  Just as you are molding me, I know that he is on the potter’s wheel as well and staying connected to you is how he will find me.  Please continue to wrap your arms around me when the spirit of loneliness tries to fester that I might not waste my time with insignificant relationships but rather fine tune ours! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

There is more to come on this saga but for now I urge all of the single Christian women to EMPOWER yourself to let go and be with God.  Society makes us feel as if we are worthless without a spouse but in reality we have the BEST MAN waiting on us to get on our knees for some quality time!  To all the married Christian women, I encourage you to EMPOWER yourself to look past the small stuff your better half does to get under your skin.  Trust me this single life is NOT all it’s cracked up to be!!! Have a blessed week ladies!     

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She is a full time Workforce Analyst with Sprint Communications in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17