Anxiety, Attitude, Freedom, I Am Free Series, Relationships, Self Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Spirit of Inferiority

F.R.E.E. (Feeling Relieved Encouraged and Excited)

Last week I was so moved by each one of the “I Am Free” series I had to do just one more. I know being free, first starts in your mind.  Thinking and believing that you’re in no form or shape confined or captured by negative thoughts.

I Am Free: Insecurities

To be insecure means to not be sure or certain; doubtful.  It’s embarrassing to say, but I’m a 30-year-old woman who is insecure.  Silly right?  That’s where my thinking trapped me especially when it comes to the opposite sex.  In my relationships the guys messed around, used me, lied to me, and took me for granted or just plain stopped caring.  I couldn’t figure out why because I’m the hopeless romantic.  I make sure to please and go above and beyond.  However at the end of the relationship journey, I’m the one that’s left feeling even more insecure.

Because I didn’t have that loving, bonding relationship with my dad like some girls experience I brought my “daddy insecurities” into my relationships with men. I was sometimes argumentative, weak and needy.  I was very insecure and I was letting it control me.  I used up way too much energy on worrying about the wrong things.  After enough arguments, tearing down of my self-esteem, stress taking over my mind and body, feeling neglected and not good enough I gave up and I LET GO!  I made up in my mind that insecurities would not control what God created.

God’s word helps us make decisions. Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” Psalms 119:105 NLT  I had to really get in God’s word and let it saturate my mind, and really start praying, sowing good seeds, loving my enemies, and forgiving and truly forgetting.  God’s love has made me stronger.  It has given me assurance. Romans 5:1-5 NLT says,

Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.  Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory. We can rejoice too, when we run into problems and trials for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character will not lead to disappointment.  For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

In God’s sight there is no need for me to feel or be insecure about anything.  He created me. So God created human beings, in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 NLT

God’s word has set me F.R.E.E (Feeling Relieved Encouraged and Excited) about LIFE!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for my journey.  Although I’ve carried a life of insecurities, You knew it would be used for the glory of my story.  Thank You for the falls for I stand taller. Thank You for the hurt for I love better.  For where I am weak, You make me strong. I love You and I give You all the praises. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies I EMPOWER you to speak over what is keeping you down.  It may not be insecurities but recognize and become F.R.E.E. of satan’s many “D”evices to destroy you.

Satan’s “D”evices:

Disappointment, discouragement, despair,  doubt(insecurities), distraction, double mindedness, dishonesty, deceit, dullness, disbelief, defame, discard, defilement, delay, disobedience, DEBT!

Be blessed & Be F.R.E.E.!

Are you an overcomer or are you still struggling with insecurity? Share your story with us in the comment section.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Invisible Me

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Ms. Hassanah White is a dedicated member of Faith Walkers Church in Birmingham, Alabama where their motto is to “Walk it out by Faith.”  She also serves as a member of the Praise Dance Ministry.  Hassanah is a true professional in the realm of marketing and customer service.  She’s a proud mother of a very energetic little boy named Jaden.  Hassanah believes laughter and prayer are the best medicines for any situation.  Her favorite scripture is Hebrews 11:6: “And without Faith it is impossible to please GOD, because anyone who comes to Him must BELIEVE that He exists and that He REWARDS those who earnestly seek Him.”

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Encouragement, God's Promises, I Am Free Series, Self Forgiveness, Spirit of Inferiority

I Am Free: Inferiority

To commemorate our nation’s independence this week, we are featuring a series entitled “I Am Free”. Read this week as our writers share how God has delivered them and set them free!

I am FREE from feelings of inferiority!

The steps of reading the Word of God, believing what it says, and releasing it would end the torment from the spirit of inferiority. Inferiority is a yolk of bondage that has been broken off of my life, because of the word of God. Today if you are dealing with the lie of “you are or will never be good enough”, you will be set free if you continue to read.

It began when I was just a young girl. Six months after having me, my mother met my step-father and that is the day I had my first appointment with “inferiority”. Since I can remember I was always reminded by my step-father directly and indirectly how I was not his, less than my siblings, and he was better than my father because he stuck around. I longed to be good enough for him and worthy of his praise.

After years, I convinced myself that I was unworthy, and that I would never be good enough. Inferiority restricted me from seeing potential in myself or having any potential for myself. I didn’t want to move forward in any of my dreams. I began to always have an attitude of defeat and felt less than everyone else. The feeling became so powerful that I was hospitalized in a psychiatric hospital twice while I was a teen, battled an addiction to marijuana, had my first child at 16, and dropped out of high-school.

Feeling inferior restricted me in my life and made me feel ashamed. It stopped me from moving forward. It prevented me from having healthy relationships and trying new things such as attending college. I used to think I can’t go there, I won’t fit in or worried that my peers or others would look down on me or judge me.

After I was saved, I continued to feel inferior; it became worst. Even though I was born again I was still in bondage. The first time I walked into church I thought I wasn’t good enough. I had too many sins on my track sheet. This also haunted me when I started dating my husband. Others would make comments referring to how I wasn’t good enough. Then I always would think he could do better. Further in my salvation, I’ve even encountered in ministry the same spirit. Making others feel inferior is very prevalent in the body of Christ today.

I had people in the church look down on me because I was a teen mom, I didn’t talk like them, speak like them, or have enough religion like them, but GLORY to God I’m free today and you can be too! Who we believe in and what we believe about ourselves will motivate what choices we make, the relationships we have, the activities we partake in, and how we live our life for Christ. It could also have an impact on how good we feel about ourselves. Believing the lies of the enemy, “You’re not good enough”, “You can’t do that”, or “You can’t get free” does not please God nor does it do us any good!

Here are a few truths from the Word of God that I believed, meditated on, and released in my mind and heart so that I could get free from feeling inferior:

1. “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” (2 Peter 1:3 NIV)You have the power to defeat the spirit of inferiority. Your soul is where your thoughts and feelings have agreement. Your soul either agrees with your flesh (ruled by your five senses) or your spirit (ruled by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God). So you have to search the Word and find out what God has said and while doing this the Holy Spirit will witness to your spirit to tell your mind the truth.

2. “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”(Hebrews 11:6 NIV) When you find something in the Word about you, you have to believe that God is telling the truth. It sounds simple, but it’s hard. God sees you as He sees Jesus! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV)

3.”Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is; his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:12 NIV) Begin to think, talk, and act on the Word of God! It’s not enough to just know it, but you have to believe it and do it!

Dear Daddy,

We thank You for loving us and giving us the power to break the yokes in our lives. Just as Your Word declares, “Not by might nor by power, but by Your Spirit”, we decree that a supernatural empowerment will take place in our lives now. In the authority of Jesus Christ we curse the root of inferiority and the fruits it produced. We rebuke the weapons of guilt, shame, jealousy, and conformity right now. We speak into our futures and command the angels of the Lord to war against any backlash or trap that the enemy would set. We cancel every appointment that the kingdom of darkness has set with our destinies. We thank You for a renewed mind and heart. We thank You that we will no longer think, talk, or act inferior to any person or thing. We thank You that greater is He that is within us and we activate the power of Your blessings. Now, Holy Spirit corrects us if we ever get side tracked. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you today to no longer live with inferiority or make anyone feel inferior to you. Each one of us has our own unique quality, feature, gifting, and anointing. We all have different backgrounds and experiences, but we all are special to our Father!

After reading this EmpowerMoment, can you recall defeating the spirit of feeling inferior?

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Mrs. Lisa M. Purnell-Marshall is happily married to the wonderful and inspiring Antoine L. Marshall. She is the proud mother of two gorgeous girls. Her voice is one of the leading and authentic voices for breast-feeding, especially for the African-American community and Generation Y. She currently works inside of her home and plans to become a professional licensed lactation consultant in 2014. She and her family are members at Spirit of Liberty Church located in Markham, IL. Embracing the love that God has for her, Lisa labors to live an acceptable and pure life through the leading and keeping of the Holy Spirit so that her attitude, words, and actions attract the glory of God. In her free time she loves receiving manis and pedis. Her favorite promises that she find comfort and reassurance in are: Psalm34:19: “A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all” and Luke 6:38: “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”