Faith, Patience, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

Seasons Change

I believe God! I believe God! I believe God! … well at least that’s what I keep telling myself. Say what you want, sometimes my faith is absolutely challenged.  I can’t come up with enough maxims or scriptures to encourage myself “the sun is always shining above the clouds,” “the storm is passing over,” “trouble don’t last always,” WHATEVER! I just want to go running down the street screaming and if I had a boxing bag it would surely be beaten to smithereens. I am Waiting to Exhale. With a laundry list of issues: family (don’t get me started), financial stress (where is my bailout?!), the pressure and trials of being an entrepreneur, health challenges, loneliness and just feeling overwhelmed and overburdened I often think I am trapped in the midst of a cataclysmic storm. Jesus can you take this torrential downpour and turn it into a drizzle?! And Lord help with the gas prices too. Please and Thank you!

As my former pastor would say, “I don’t care how BIG your Bible is and how many attendance stars you have on the church roll, if you are honest with yourself every now and then you go through SOMETHING.” I am reminded in Matthew 5:45 “…He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.” 

Last week as I began to feel hopeless and helpless, a good friend reminded me that everyone goes through a desert season, a time when none of the seeds you plant will grow. You are experiencing your own personal famine. Our father tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:1 “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” and in v. 6 “a time to get and a time to lose.”

She reminded me of the story of David when he was hiding in the wilderness and in mountains because Saul wanted to kill him. When he came out of his desert season he became King of Israel. We talked about Joseph and his desert season. His brothers hated him so much that they sold him into slavery. Later he was falsely accused of sleeping with his boss’s wife and spent years in prison because of a lie. God positioned him and when he came out of his desert season, Pharaoh put him over all of the land of Egypt. He ended up helping those same brothers who sold him into slavery. Let’s not forget Job. In his desert season he was stripped of his health, his wealth, all of his possessions and even his children. When that season was over, Job was restored with TWICE as much as he had before. All of these men and many others in the Bible went through a desert season and when their season was up they were restored lavishly.

As I listened to these stories, I reflected and realized that I have been in this season before too. God reminded me of when I graduated from college with negative $1500 in the bank (don’t ask) and he blessed me with my first job making nearly $80,000. He made me remember that even in the midst of my many financial desert seasons, he allowed me to travel to 13 different countries around the world. He called to my attention how he protected me from hurt, harm and danger the summer that I was “homeless” in New Jersey sleeping in my car and at the YMCA…oops I never told my family. Well now you know.  He reminded me that EVERY personal challenge I have had whether it is emotional, physical or financial he has ALWAYS brought me through to the other side…in his own timing. He truly makes a way when I see no way. During these seasons, he stays true to his word. “He has never left me nor has he forsaken me. “ (Deuteronomy 31:6) Although sometimes it’s hard to tell, seasons do change. 

Dear Daddy,

As the elders used to sing, “Lord don’t move my mountain but give me the strength to climb.” Father I thank You for reminding me of how You have brought me out of every desert season with abundance. When my faith is challenged, as the father’s was in Mark 9:24 “…Lord help mine unbelief.” Although things look bleak Lord help me to trust You because Your vision is far superior to mine and You tell me in Isaiah 55:9 “My ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” God, I thank You because I know this season is only temporary and You are working out something BIG just for me. I LOVE You! Thank You for being the omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent father that You are. I know that This too shall pass! In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Ladies, EMPOWER yourself today regardless of what season you are in to store up your faith as well as your savings. Become firmly rooted in the word of God. You will need it when the seasons change. EMPOWER yourself not to give in, give up or act up during your desert season.  EMPOWER yourself to trust that our heavenly father is working out every situation down to the most minute detail. Jesus loves you and he is working it out for YOU!

P.S. You can read about David in I Samuel Chapters 23 and 24. Study the trials of Joseph in Genesis Chapters 37-50 and you can study the entire book of Job.

Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. This week she is leaning on Philippians 4:11-13 (NIV) I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

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Growth/Maturity

I Ain’t Saying She’s a Gold Digger…

Yesterday I was listening to one of my favorite artists, Kanye West. As the lyrics of Gold Digger blared through my headphones, I pondered on the meaning of “gold digger.” I even went as far to look up the definition on the semi-credible urbandictionary.com. According to one of the contributors there, a gold digger “is any man or woman who is in a relationship with another person because of their economic status.” Another stated that a gold digger is “a girl who is only with you for what you can do or buy for them.” After reading those definitions, I was proud to say that I am not and have never been classified as a gold digger. However, just as quickly as I could proudly stick my chest out and make my proclamation, God reminded me that there were some definitely some gold digging tendencies in my past. In a flash, he started reminding of how I used to dig for gold…

Remember when I wanted to talk to you so you could get to know me intimately and all you wanted to talk about was what you wanted or what I could do for you? Remember when I gave you joy, peace and unconditional love, yet all you wanted to ask me for were material things? Remember when you would go to church and if I hadn’t blessed you with a few extra dollars in your pocket, you would sit with your arms folded, not wanting to give me any praise? But if I increased your bank account, enlarged your territory or gave you a new ride, you were tearing the church up with your praise.  It seems you only walked with me for what I could do for you, not because you were genuinely interested in knowing who I was. So yes dear child of mine, you were a GOLD DIGGER too!

POW! He quickly busted my little bubble but boy was He so right!

“The earth is the LORD’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it” (Psalm 24:1NIV)

“For every animal of the forest is mine, and the cattle on a thousand hills.” (Psalms 50:10 NIV)

Wow! I really used to be a gold digger! I was using the One who owns and has access to EVERYTHING. His economic status surpasses everyone else’s and I was taking full advantage of that. I was abusing our relationship simply because He told me that I could have whatever I asked in His name. (John 14:14) I immediately asked Him to forgive me for my old gold diggin’ ways.

The interesting thing about this whole scenario is that if I would have been seeking His face, His hand would have come automatically. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matthew 6:33 NLT)

Please take time to evaluate your relationship with God. Is it a gold digger and sugar daddy scenario or are you the obedient, loving daughter who genuinely cares for her Father? I encourage you to assess your situation and ask yourself when was the last time you put your hands up in worship instead of putting your hands out for a blessing. When was the last time you spoke to Him just to say I need you and not that I need this or that? If you can’t recall…I ain’t saying you a gold digger, but…

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for the times that I acted as a gold digger in our relationship. I want You for more than what You can do for me. I want to praise You for who You are and not just for what You can do. I want to knowYou intimately. Teach me to seek Your face and not Your hand. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to leave your gold digging tendencies behind. EMPOWER your relationship with God by taking time to really get to know Him for who He is.

Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant.  She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments.  As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible more than anything. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and two lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.


Growth/Maturity, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy

Single in the City

Over the course of the week I have been wondering what my Empowermoment would be about.  The last few weeks were easy to start and finish because of the abundant blessings that were falling from above right into my lap!  This week I am still being blessed but nothing in particular stood out.

Then it hit me, I have been getting attacked from the enemy and did not pay it much attention.  For the past seven days I have had ongoing troubles with the opposite sex.  Just for clarification purposes, I told you all a few weeks back that I had restored my relationship with God after being in a two year situation that had no purpose. I decided to go back to the drawing board and start just DATING!

I must admit the dating game changes dramatically once you begin an intimate walk with Jesus. There are certain characteristics that I am seeking and I am unwilling to budge on them!  A prime example is that the next person that I enter a serious relationship with MUST have a relationship with Christ.  Finding someone with those credentials is a huge challenge!

I already know what you’re thinking… I am not supposed to find my husband he is supposed to find me. I get that but apparently this meaningless dating is just that meaningless. I have yet to meet anyone who is half way equally yoked with me.  But the word of God reminded me that “I am the truevine, and my father is the husbandman.” (John 15:1)  I must stay connected to the truevine and be in close relationship with Jesus BEFORE Mr. Right shows up.

In the past I made many mistakes by allowing the men in my life to consume my every waking moment when in reality that is where God is to be.  Being a single Christian woman is one of the hardest obstacles that I have to encounter in life.  Some days I am so filled with the goodness of Jesus that a husband is the last thing on my mind.  Other days, I am so lonely, yearning for the company or affection of the opposite sex that I want to cry.  This is truly an upward battle but I am determined to make it to the top of the hill.  Just the other day, in the midst of it all I had to say this prayer:

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for being the LOVE of my life!! I am determined to keep my mind stayed on you while you prepare me for my future spouse.  Just as you are molding me, I know that he is on the potter’s wheel as well and staying connected to you is how he will find me.  Please continue to wrap your arms around me when the spirit of loneliness tries to fester that I might not waste my time with insignificant relationships but rather fine tune ours! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

There is more to come on this saga but for now I urge all of the single Christian women to EMPOWER yourself to let go and be with God.  Society makes us feel as if we are worthless without a spouse but in reality we have the BEST MAN waiting on us to get on our knees for some quality time!  To all the married Christian women, I encourage you to EMPOWER yourself to look past the small stuff your better half does to get under your skin.  Trust me this single life is NOT all it’s cracked up to be!!! Have a blessed week ladies!     

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She is a full time Workforce Analyst with Sprint Communications in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

Inspirational, Trusting God

He’s My Personal Muhammad Ali!

Oh hell naw!” That was my first thought as I got out of my car this morning. “Did this chick really just ram me from the back at a STOP SIGN?” I jumped out of my car and calmly walked over to the waiting driver who was obviously in a “whatever” kind of mood. “Did I do that?” she asked in a sarcastic tone. I mean really? Was she asking me this? “Of course,” I replied. Through her pleading for me not to call the cops and her offer to pay out of pocket (money which I knew I’d never see), I proceeded to walk back to my car to get my phone and a pen to write down the information. I then hear her yell, “I’m going to just pull up the road” and without a hesitation the chick took off! REALLY? THIS CAN’T BE HAPPENING TO ME!!!! My first instinct was to get in the car and create a California style high speed chase through the streets of Washington DC during morning rush hour. Then that little, still voice came into my head and I was calm.

“And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, standstill, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will show to you today: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen today, ye shall see them again no more forever. The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.” (Exodus 14:13-14)

Moses had to instruct the people to not react to the situation that they were in. He understood that God was all-powerful. He is a warrior that has NEVER lost a battle so they didn’t have to worry.

I know that we all want to handle our situations, especially when we feel that they are huge ones. In actuality they are only big to us. God can handle anything. I know if had chase down that woman there would have been some serious problems on both ends. I am blessed that I was not seriously hurt, that my car was not seriously damaged, and that the situation did not escalate. Sometimes we have to stop looking at the incident itself and assess the outcome! It could have turned out much differently for me today.

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for placing that spirit of calmness over me this morning. I am not the person I used to be and that is a great thing! I know that you are changing me because I can feel it on the inside and my outward actions show it. I love you so much! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today, I EMPOWER you to WALK AWAY from a situation that you just can’t battle alone. GIVE IT TO GOD! Let HIM fight that battle for you. LET IT GO.

Shawna Dix is a mother, educator, and all around child of God. She is passionate about God, her son Jalen, family, friends, and her students. She loves teaching because it allows her to shower our youth with love and guidance. She resides in Pentagon City, Virginia and works hard educating inner city youth in Washington DC. She prides herself in being a realist. She exclaims that she is in no way, shape, form, or fashion perfect but she has accepted that she serves a perfect God who is able to do ALL things!


Inspirational, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

The Love Letter

Dear God,

I have been hearing how people are so “blessed and highly favored” or “too blessed to be stressed” but Lord, I need to be real for a moment. I have been holding onto something and it is eating away at me. I am still mad that you birthed me to a crack head mother and a dead beat dad. I was probably a mistake and not even supposed to be here; I definitely could tell that I wasn’t wanted. I am still upset that you allowed my uncle to rape and molest me without coming to my rescue. How could you do this to me? All of this hurt and anger I have built up has made me to live a life full of mistakes, pain, and hurt. I made a mistake when I aborted those babies and I regret it every day. Are you punishing me, still? God, I am so sorry, but I didn’t know what to do; I didn’t know who the father was. I am so upset with myself for disappointing You. On top of all of this, the one woman I did love and whom I considered my mother, you took her away from me too. So how can I walk around as if I am blessed and highly favored? I’m hurting; I’m sad, mad, and angry. I feel left out Lord…I thought you loved me. I cry myself to sleep at night because I’m lonely and sad. I’m depressed at the thought of not being loved by anyone. I stick out; I don’t fit in, why am I like this?

Love, Your Wounded Baby Girl

Dear Daughter,

I chose your mother as a vessel to be used by me. Before you were created in her womb I knew the plan for your life, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11)I took my time to knit you together (Psalms 139:13). I was there, although grieved, when you were sacrificed and your virtue stripped from you. But I am also a God of restoration. I heal the brokenhearted and I tend to your wounds. (Psalm 147:3) I made a promise to you that I am with you always even to the ends of the earth (Matthew 28:20) You say that you aren’t attractive, I say I made you in my image.(Genesis 1:27) I made you fearful and wonderful (Psalms 139:14). I made your hair like lambs skin, your eyes like the sun, you lips full like ripened fruit, and your stature like the rolling hills. I made you on purpose, I made you like me…you are beautiful. My spirit was grieved when you aborted those babies and of course I also know of  your other wrong doings. But remember that son I sacrificed? He shielded you with His blood and mercy and presented you to me faultless (Colossians 1:22) Walk in freedom my dear! Your earthly mother was my angel, she taught you how to fly, take care of yourself, and she showed you me. It was time for her to return so that you could do what I have for you to do. There are younger daughters that walk around in guilt and shame every day. Who can touch them but you? Who can show them that I can heal the wounded heart but you? Who can show them that a daughter of a crack head can be a Queen of Success, but you? My Son can plead on your behalf because He took on all sin. You can plead on someone else’s behalf because you have walked where they have walked. Don’t hold your victory, share your story to edify me that someone else, some hopeless little girl like you once were, can be saved. You were restored a long time ago, now walk in it. I love you.

Love, God

This letter was written from parts of my life and the various lives of women that I have encountered on my journey. As Christians we sometimes seem insane to believe and love a God that has allowed misfortune to happen to us. But what the devil meant for your bad, God will turn around for your good. Sister, know that God loves you and the triumphs we overcame are stalks of wisdom that can be used to heal and comfort someone else. And know this, all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord and are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). It takes time to heal, but in time you shall be healed.

Dear Daddy,

I know sometimes I get angry or ashamed of my past. “Hear my prayer, O Lord, and give ear to my cry; Do not be silent at my tears. (Psalms 39:12)”. Teach me how to let go so that I can use what You have implanted in me for Your Glory and to help someone else. I know that you are a rewarder of those that diligently seek you. Heal my wounds, and if they are already healed, strengthen me to walk in your boldness with liberty. Help me to bless someone that needs me; keep my eyes and ears sensitive to her call. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today, EMPOWER yourself by sharing with God all of your angers, fears, and disappointments and TRUST that His word will not return void.  Psalms 6:9 reminds us “The Lord heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer.” Start seeking to encourage and EMPOWER others that may be going through what you have OVERCOME. God has given you confirmation in His word that you are already restored and healed, for His word says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:18-19)

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

Growth/Maturity, Honesty/Truth

The Ugly Truth

Seven years ago, I met a guy who was really not right for me but I accepted him into my heart and home anyway. He looked GOOD and I was lonely. Although his accomplishments and academic achievements differed from mine this had nothing to do with our compatibility. He wasn’t right for me because “he was sorry.”

My life was on an incline and his was flatlined with only “talk” about what he would do better. While he treated me okay and “talked a good game” I could no longer accept the less than substandard package I was presented with. One day, fed up with the quasi-dating, semi-shacking lifestyle that we were involved in, I put him out. I told him that he needed to get his s&@t together! Ladies, you have to understand as confrontational as I am in all other areas of my life when it comes to men I am on MUTE so iniating this conversation was extremely difficult. 

I wasn’t “breaking up” with him; I just wanted him to stay at his own place and court me like a real man. What I thought would snap him back into reality caused him to completely cut off contact with me. I was devastated. After he stopped talking to me, I saw him again only once before I moved. Since I left the Sunshine State in 2006 we have barely communicated. Our last communication ended in me telling him to NEVER contact me again and that to him meant it was dead.

 “And you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free” John 8: 32

Fast forward to the present. A few weeks ago, this same guy called me and the conversation brought a smile to my heart. He told me that he never forgot me telling him to “get his s&@t together.” He was calling me to let me know that he had done just that. He has a great job and is working towards the next level in his career path. I literally had not seen him in five years. He told me that I inspired him and encouraged him to do better and although it took some time to get it together he wants to be a part of my life. I’m not from Missouri but I told him that he had to “Show Me”…and to his credit he has begun to do just that.

This story is less about our relationship and more about the fact that the words I used to transform his life were as important to me as they were to him. Even if we never date again, although uncomfortable, I planted seeds of truth that have now manifested. Sometimes it’s hard to say the thing that needs to be said, when it needs to be said and to whom you need to say it to. Personally, I have let many situations linger in my life simply because I knew revealing the truth would hurt. But when God speaks truth to you, be obedient because it can be a liberating process for both you and eventually the other person. It can breathe new life to a situation. I have since learned to speak the truth in a much gentler way, but I thank God that He could still promote change through my profane approach!

Dear Daddy,

When I don’t know how to speak Your truth give me the courage to say the words that need to be said. Help me to be truthful without being judgmental. Help me to accept the truth about myself when people tell me and to fix those areas that are in need of repair. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Today EMPOWER yourself by telling the TRUTH. You may not have a word for someone else because sometimes the person who needs to hear the truth is staring at us in the mirror. Acknowledge the message that God is giving you and speak TRUTH to Power!    

Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is  the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister,  friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe. Her passage of study this week is Ezekiel 37: 1-14  vs. 4-6 “Then he said to me, “Prophesy to these bones and say to them, “Dry bones, hear the word of the Lord! This is what the Sovereign LORD says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life. I will attach tendons to you and make flesh come upon you and cover you with skin; I will put breath in you and you will come to life. Then you will know that I am the Lord”