Anxiety, Attitude, Freedom, I Am Free Series, Relationships, Self Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Spirit of Inferiority

F.R.E.E. (Feeling Relieved Encouraged and Excited)

Last week I was so moved by each one of the “I Am Free” series I had to do just one more. I know being free, first starts in your mind.  Thinking and believing that you’re in no form or shape confined or captured by negative thoughts.

I Am Free: Insecurities

To be insecure means to not be sure or certain; doubtful.  It’s embarrassing to say, but I’m a 30-year-old woman who is insecure.  Silly right?  That’s where my thinking trapped me especially when it comes to the opposite sex.  In my relationships the guys messed around, used me, lied to me, and took me for granted or just plain stopped caring.  I couldn’t figure out why because I’m the hopeless romantic.  I make sure to please and go above and beyond.  However at the end of the relationship journey, I’m the one that’s left feeling even more insecure.

Because I didn’t have that loving, bonding relationship with my dad like some girls experience I brought my “daddy insecurities” into my relationships with men. I was sometimes argumentative, weak and needy.  I was very insecure and I was letting it control me.  I used up way too much energy on worrying about the wrong things.  After enough arguments, tearing down of my self-esteem, stress taking over my mind and body, feeling neglected and not good enough I gave up and I LET GO!  I made up in my mind that insecurities would not control what God created.

God’s word helps us make decisions. Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” Psalms 119:105 NLT  I had to really get in God’s word and let it saturate my mind, and really start praying, sowing good seeds, loving my enemies, and forgiving and truly forgetting.  God’s love has made me stronger.  It has given me assurance. Romans 5:1-5 NLT says,

Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.  Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory. We can rejoice too, when we run into problems and trials for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character will not lead to disappointment.  For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

In God’s sight there is no need for me to feel or be insecure about anything.  He created me. So God created human beings, in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 NLT

God’s word has set me F.R.E.E (Feeling Relieved Encouraged and Excited) about LIFE!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for my journey.  Although I’ve carried a life of insecurities, You knew it would be used for the glory of my story.  Thank You for the falls for I stand taller. Thank You for the hurt for I love better.  For where I am weak, You make me strong. I love You and I give You all the praises. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies I EMPOWER you to speak over what is keeping you down.  It may not be insecurities but recognize and become F.R.E.E. of satan’s many “D”evices to destroy you.

Satan’s “D”evices:

Disappointment, discouragement, despair,  doubt(insecurities), distraction, double mindedness, dishonesty, deceit, dullness, disbelief, defame, discard, defilement, delay, disobedience, DEBT!

Be blessed & Be F.R.E.E.!

Are you an overcomer or are you still struggling with insecurity? Share your story with us in the comment section.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Invisible Me


Ms. Hassanah White is a dedicated member of Faith Walkers Church in Birmingham, Alabama where their motto is to “Walk it out by Faith.”  She also serves as a member of the Praise Dance Ministry.  Hassanah is a true professional in the realm of marketing and customer service.  She’s a proud mother of a very energetic little boy named Jaden.  Hassanah believes laughter and prayer are the best medicines for any situation.  Her favorite scripture is Hebrews 11:6: “And without Faith it is impossible to please GOD, because anyone who comes to Him must BELIEVE that He exists and that He REWARDS those who earnestly seek Him.”

Love, Love, Love Series, Self Love, Self-Esteem

Learning to Love Me

This is hard to admit…I struggle to love myself.  As far back as I can remember, this has been an ongoing struggle.  As a child, I struggled to accept myself physically.  I thought that I wasn’t as pretty as the other girls, my nose was too big, I was too skinny etc.  As I grew up I began to believe myself to be physically beautiful, however, this was only because other people (namely members of the opposite sex) started to notice me.

Boys and men noticing me opened a whole new level of struggle.  My love for myself was dependent on what they said, did, and felt about me.  As my teenage and college years rolled on, I ALWAYS had a man.  It was as if my sanity depended on it.  When one didn’t work out, it wasn’t long before I had another one.  I’ve settled for Quasi-relationships where I was never given a commitment but behaved as if I was married.  I’ve been physically, emotionally, and sexually abused.  When abuse wasn’t on the menu, I got periodic calls filled with empty expressions of “care” when they wanted money, sex, or whatever else.  I went running every time, even to the point of leaving my bed and home in the middle of the night to go attend to them.

Sadly, I have never received what I’ve chased after so desperately.  I don’t know what it feels like to be loved by a man in that special romantic way.  In my adult life, I am FINALLY learning to really love ME, by seeing myself the way God sees me:

1)       There is nothing wrong with how God created me.  “…He has made everything beautiful in its time…” (Ecclesiastes 3:11 NIV)

2)      “… I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful…” (Psalms 139:14 NIV)

3)      I am special to God.  “…before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.  Before you were born, I set you apart…” (Jeremiah 1:5 NIV)

4)      I am a princess, and deserve to be treated as such! “…you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God…” (1 Peter 2:9 NIV)

Not until we begin to see ourselves the way God sees us will we ever really love ourselves.  We must love who God created us to be in order to achieve the destiny He has called us to.  For me, relationships with men were my indicator that I did not love myself, but maybe that’s not you.  You might overeat, or not eat enough.  You may be engaged in dangerous behavior or be sinking in depression.  You may be just floating through life not taking authority and letting the devil do whatever he wants.  All of these are indicators of not loving who God created you to be.  It’s time to see you the way that God sees you.  “…For God so loved [insert your name here] that he gave his one and only son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life…” (John 3:16 NIV)  How could you not love yourself when you understand just how valuable you are! 🙂

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for loving me!  Teach me how to love myself that way that You love me. Forgive me for searching for love everywhere but in You.  Forgive me for the times that I have made You feel as if Your love wasn’t good enough.  I love You and I am so grateful that You love me in spite of my imperfections, faults, and issues.  I am also grateful that not only do You love me just the way I am, but You love me enough to continue to push me toward where You have destined me to be.  Give me wisdom and strength to keep moving in that direction.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to love yourself the way God loves you.  You are a princess and you deserve royal treatment.  Carry yourself like royalty.  Do not expect others to treat you a certain way when you have not set the standard.

1)      Take Care of Yourself Physically

Even Esther went through a year of beauty treatments before going in to see the king.  Strive to be physically fit, eat well, exercise, take care of your skin, etc. (See Esther 2: 12-13a)

2)       Enjoy your own company

–          Aside from your devotional time with God, learn to enjoy hanging out by yourself. (i.e. go to a movie, out to eat or on a solo vacation) Learn about yourself, what you enjoy, your interests etc.

3)      Don’t settle for FAKE love

–          End the quasi-relationships, friends with benefits, no strings attached arrangements.  God has so much more for you!  The true definition of love is given to us in 1Corinthians 13: 4-8, we are not to settle for less than that!

4)      Don’t Struggle Alone

–          For those times when you struggle to love yourself or when loneliness is pressuring you to seek FAKE love, pray and ask God to connect you with another WOMAN that will esteem you, pray for you and hold you accountable to the call God has on your life!

  ‘Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.’ – Whitney Houston


Ms. Katrina Richard is an up and coming professional residing in Chicago, Illinois.  She strives to incorporate knowledge and life-skills to teenagers in her profession as a high school history teacher.  Katrina is very active in her church community where she serves in the prayer ministry as well as in the nursery.  She has a passion for serving in the lesser known areas of ministry because she believes every facet of ministry is important to kingdom building and spiritual development of the believers. Her favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Contentment, Honesty/Truth, Inspirational, Miscellaneous, Self-Esteem

Invisible Me

When I walk into a room, people usually notice. I have a pretty large personality and a big smile. Although sometimes that smile becomes a big “unit” on my face. Whether I am in take over mode or chill mode, rarely do I go unnoticed. I’m 5’1” but I walk tall and act like I “own it.” I’ve never known people to question my self-esteem because I can put on quite a show…or at least I thought.

My Happy ME!

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment … Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (I Peter 3:3-4 NIV)

In a recent conversation, someone broke down many of the non-verbal and sometimes verbal things that illustrate some of my unhappiness on the inside. Granted we all have some bad days that we feel less than our best but what happens when those days turn into years. What happens when we let our inner beauty become tarnished with insecurities?

As I enter the room walking tall, my “invisible me” walks in too, head slightly bent but holding up signs for all to see. “This dress would look so much better minus 20lbs. What’s that…my girtle isn’t working?” “I really need a new purse cause this was so last season.” “My car is so out of date.” “Someone, please show me some attention!”

My invisible me is taking over! She questions my looks, my abilities and my accomplishments. She is killing me softly from the inside out.

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. (Philippians 4:12 NIV)

This is how I look without makeup
And with no bra my ninny’s sag down low
My hair ain’t never hung down to my shoulders
And it might not grow
Ya’ never know

I got a little pot in my belly
So now a days my figure ain’t so fly
My dress ain’t cost nothin’ but seven dollars 
But I made it fly
    -Erykah Badu

I have made an executive decision over my life. I am going to be content whether I have it or I don’t have it; whether I lose 0lbs this week or 2lbs this week; whether he calls me back or doesn’t call me back; whether my hair is long or short; whether there is money in the bank or it’s empty; whether I get the job or not; whether I get the recognition I deserve or someone else gets it; whether I get the new car I want or continue to roll in this some-timed car; whether my family and friends are with me or against me. I am burning all of the invisible signs and learning daily to work on “issues” without letting those issues control who I am as a person and dictate my life. From now on I want my invisible me to match the same confidence that I portray on the outside because I recognize that I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14 KJV)

Dear Daddy, 

Thank You for taking the time to make ME! Thank You for every blood vessel, capillary, microscopic cell, vein, organ and bone in my body. Your detail left nothing to chance and according to Your word in Psalms 139:14 I am a marvelous work because I am created by You. When I am feeling down about myself, remind me of who YOU are so that I will know who I am. Help me to focus and discipline to change the things in my life that need to change but also help me to be content as I work to change them.  Help me to pay attention to my “invisible me” so that she is fully representative of the awesomeness that is You and that You have created in me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today I EMPOWER you to do a self –check. What does your “invisible me” say about you? If it be God’s will, work on changing areas of your life where you have issues. As you make progress and even have some setbacks, I EMPOWER you to be content as you let the light from above radiate from the inside out.  

Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend, community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. One of her favorite scriptures is Hebrews 11:6: And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

Black Music Month Series, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Self-Esteem, Stress

No More Drama

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Hebrews 12:1 (NIV)

Last week I blogged It’s the God in Me that spoke about how God’s mercy and strength allowed me to start working on me. One of our readers “Dee” touched me in her comment and God encouraged me to write about how I’m able to “strut my stuff” in God!

There are things called “baggage” that seem to weigh us down in this journey called life. Baggage from our past, fears, failure, inadequacies; the list goes on. Someone stated “baggage is the stuff that follows you when you open one door before closing the one you just left.” Need I say more? Men can cause a lot of baggage and it’s because we don’t’ close the doors of yesterday before entering the promises of today. My message today is to EMPOWER you to get rid of the drama in your life! Some things in life stress us and they really aren’t worth it. Stop worrying about what people have to say about you. Dr. Seuss says it best, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” This is not to be done in an attitude of arrogance, but in an attitude of assuredness and love of how God made you.

Just recently I incorporated this concept of no more drama in my life. As outspoken as I am, I had this embedded need of other people’s approval. One night my husband had to sit me down and say “Look, you are running around trying to please all of these people or going and back tracking what you say because people get offended by your assertiveness. Be you. Being you is enough; it is more than enough.” It took a while to set in, but I had to truly believe what he said. God made me fearful and wonderful (Psalm 139:14). He did not make a mistake on me! I had to start releasing all drama from my life. That meant certain relationships gained boundaries. Healthy ones were relished, while unhealthy ones were deleted or minimized. My personal health took a front seat. I became priority. Now this doesn’t always mean first because sometimes family, friends, my child, or my honey may come first. But at the end of the day, I am a priority.

I had to set aside everything that held me down. Whether it was sin, anger, friends, disappointments, money or weight, I had to let that drama go. So today, one thing I do know is that I am a better woman for it. My confidence is not a front for this insecure person on the inside, but has become my true character. I have confidence in knowing that “with God, all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26b NIV). I am able to exert the God in Me because I have “laid aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset me, and I am running with patience the race that is set before me.” (Hebrews 12:1 KJV).

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for always being there for me, even when I couldn’t see my way through. Thank You for being there when I carried You with me through those voluntarily dramatic times of sin in my life. Father, as I move forward, teach me how to lay aside the drama that is causing me to back pedal or that’s keeping me down. Help me to move forward through Your healing of my heart, my soul, my mind, and my relationships. I love You Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you today to identify those things in your life that are drama filled and either remove or de-dramatize them. This is not something you do out of your own emotion, but through God’s purposeful plan for you, which can only be found through prayer and worship in Him. But Sistah Girl, some things are a given…if He has already told you to remove the drama, remove it NOW!

In honor of Black Music month I selected “No More Drama” by one of my favorite artists, Mary J. Blige. This song is very special to me because by the time you read this I will have lived out a dream of learning to tap dance (get your chuckle in.) I’ve always wanted to do it, and this is the song my tap instructor choreographed my performance to.

As a twofer, I would like to highlight her dance company NEEMA Performing Arts: Elizabeth Bowden, Founder and instructor, is a true woman of God that blesses our community through teaching us the gift and art of dance.

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

Black Music Month Series, Faith, Forgiveness, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Obedience, Patience, Self Forgiveness, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

The Potter’s House

Dear Daddy,

My spirit is broken. This holding pattern that You have me in is breaking me down and sometimes I wonder if “my next” is ever on its way. Some days, I feel like my life is shattered because so many things are not happening when I thought they would. Lord please help me because I am broken and I need to be fixed. In Jesus’ name Amen!

Are you walking around in need of repair?

Broken Spirit– As much as I love being an entrepreneur, right now it is taking its toll on me. The many days of rejection and waiting have started to break my confidence, my motivation and my spirit. Furthermore, you could have never convinced my 20-year-old self that my 31-year-old self would not be married with children. Are you waiting on God’s promises but becoming discouraged with his timeline? Do you feel a little less than your normal self? Did something happen and you just haven’t been able to forgive yourself or another person? Do you find yourself with a negative outlook because of personal experiences? A broken spirit can leave you in a state of despair and depression.  A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Proverbs 17:22 (KJV)

Broken relationships– I have lost some friends, boyfriends and family on this journey of life. They didn’t die a physical death but our relationship died. It has caused me much pain, sadness and anger because although I think I am “Ms. Fix It” I haven’t been able to repair these relationships. Ultimately, I have to let them go. Do you have broken or abusive relationships in your life? You need to pray about it and ask God to mend them and if it’s not meant to be release them.

Broken Heart– Are you emotionally battered from a broken heart? Did someone hurt you and you can’t get over it? Are you still in Heartbreak Hotel? Have you lost someone that you loved and their death has taken an emotional toll on you that you can’t recover from? What is it that is causing that tightness in your chest and silent cries at night? He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 (KJV)

Broken Home- For a long time, I held resentment in my heart for what I thought was abandonment by mother. Why didn’t she want us? …and where was Daddy? As I got older, I realized that it wasn’t that she didn’t want us but that her mental illness rendered her incapable of properly caring for us. When I found the dad that I had never known, I realized that he wouldn’t have been able to be the parent I needed either. Did you come from a broken home? Divorced parents? Single parents? Absent parents? Abusive parents? Alcoholic or drug addicted parents or siblings? BROKE parents? Are you still blaming them for your broken childhood?

Many of us are walking around broken. We have holes, tattered edges and pieces missing from us. Some of us have been broken for so long we have  accepted the brokenness as normal, made a feeble attempt to put a patch on it and keep moving. We don’t wear tattered clothes so why are we living with tattered spirits. In order to be restored we must be repaired.

“Go down to the potter’s house, and there I will give you my message.” So I went down to the potter’s house, and I saw him working at the wheel. But the pot he was shaping from the clay was marred in his hands; so the potter formed it into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him. Then the word of the LORD came to me.  He said, “Can I not do with you, Israel, as this potter does?” declares the LORD. “Like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in my hand, Israel. (Jeremiah 18:2-6 NIV)

Only a potter can take something that is malformed or devoid of form and turn it into a stunning usable work of art. When it gets cracked, he can fix it and when it’s torn into a billion pieces he can put it back together again. Just because you have a BROKEN PAST doesn’t mean you have to have a BROKEN FUTURE.  The potter yearns to put you back together again.

Dear Daddy,

Thanks in advance for blessing someone through the EmpowerMoments. There are many lives including my own within reach of this blog that suffer from: broken hearts; broken spirits; broken homes and broken relationships. Jesus, I ask that You provide total restoration. Remove the fix a flat and patches and make us like new tires, ready to roll and meet the demands of the road of life. Lord, I know I can find everything I need at the potter’s house. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

EMPOWER yourselves by allowing the Potter to repair you like new. He can fix all of the brokenness in your life and restore you.

Allow gospel greats Walter & Tramaine Hawkins to minister to your soul:

Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend, community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. This week she is leaning on Psalm 23:1 The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want.

Inspirational, Motivation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

The Love Letter

Dear God,

I have been hearing how people are so “blessed and highly favored” or “too blessed to be stressed” but Lord, I need to be real for a moment. I have been holding onto something and it is eating away at me. I am still mad that you birthed me to a crack head mother and a dead beat dad. I was probably a mistake and not even supposed to be here; I definitely could tell that I wasn’t wanted. I am still upset that you allowed my uncle to rape and molest me without coming to my rescue. How could you do this to me? All of this hurt and anger I have built up has made me to live a life full of mistakes, pain, and hurt. I made a mistake when I aborted those babies and I regret it every day. Are you punishing me, still? God, I am so sorry, but I didn’t know what to do; I didn’t know who the father was. I am so upset with myself for disappointing You. On top of all of this, the one woman I did love and whom I considered my mother, you took her away from me too. So how can I walk around as if I am blessed and highly favored? I’m hurting; I’m sad, mad, and angry. I feel left out Lord…I thought you loved me. I cry myself to sleep at night because I’m lonely and sad. I’m depressed at the thought of not being loved by anyone. I stick out; I don’t fit in, why am I like this?

Love, Your Wounded Baby Girl

Dear Daughter,

I chose your mother as a vessel to be used by me. Before you were created in her womb I knew the plan for your life, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11)I took my time to knit you together (Psalms 139:13). I was there, although grieved, when you were sacrificed and your virtue stripped from you. But I am also a God of restoration. I heal the brokenhearted and I tend to your wounds. (Psalm 147:3) I made a promise to you that I am with you always even to the ends of the earth (Matthew 28:20) You say that you aren’t attractive, I say I made you in my image.(Genesis 1:27) I made you fearful and wonderful (Psalms 139:14). I made your hair like lambs skin, your eyes like the sun, you lips full like ripened fruit, and your stature like the rolling hills. I made you on purpose, I made you like me…you are beautiful. My spirit was grieved when you aborted those babies and of course I also know of  your other wrong doings. But remember that son I sacrificed? He shielded you with His blood and mercy and presented you to me faultless (Colossians 1:22) Walk in freedom my dear! Your earthly mother was my angel, she taught you how to fly, take care of yourself, and she showed you me. It was time for her to return so that you could do what I have for you to do. There are younger daughters that walk around in guilt and shame every day. Who can touch them but you? Who can show them that I can heal the wounded heart but you? Who can show them that a daughter of a crack head can be a Queen of Success, but you? My Son can plead on your behalf because He took on all sin. You can plead on someone else’s behalf because you have walked where they have walked. Don’t hold your victory, share your story to edify me that someone else, some hopeless little girl like you once were, can be saved. You were restored a long time ago, now walk in it. I love you.

Love, God

This letter was written from parts of my life and the various lives of women that I have encountered on my journey. As Christians we sometimes seem insane to believe and love a God that has allowed misfortune to happen to us. But what the devil meant for your bad, God will turn around for your good. Sister, know that God loves you and the triumphs we overcame are stalks of wisdom that can be used to heal and comfort someone else. And know this, all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord and are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). It takes time to heal, but in time you shall be healed.

Dear Daddy,

I know sometimes I get angry or ashamed of my past. “Hear my prayer, O Lord, and give ear to my cry; Do not be silent at my tears. (Psalms 39:12)”. Teach me how to let go so that I can use what You have implanted in me for Your Glory and to help someone else. I know that you are a rewarder of those that diligently seek you. Heal my wounds, and if they are already healed, strengthen me to walk in your boldness with liberty. Help me to bless someone that needs me; keep my eyes and ears sensitive to her call. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today, EMPOWER yourself by sharing with God all of your angers, fears, and disappointments and TRUST that His word will not return void.  Psalms 6:9 reminds us “The Lord heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer.” Start seeking to encourage and EMPOWER others that may be going through what you have OVERCOME. God has given you confirmation in His word that you are already restored and healed, for His word says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:18-19)

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

God's Love, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy

Every Dawn is a New Beginning

“Come now, let us reason together,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.” (Isaiah 1:18)

Every morning I would walk pass a painting fixed in the hallway of my childhood home, it still hangs there today. The painting read “Every dawn is a new beginning.” Growing up I never paid much attention to this, but as I grew into an adult, I would find myself in situations that left me feeling hopeless, down, depressed, or even faithless. This painting would ring in my head. I remember one particular phase of my life where I was living a life of uncleanliness, acts that led to fornication, a mouth that cursed like a sailor (I could really put some combinations together), and an attitude of mental supremacy even at the sake of other’s emotions…I was an emotional bully. But God took me through a series of events that caused me to be broken. At one point it seemed as if every situation I encountered caused the tables to turn negatively on me and I felt small. But then a still voice spoke into my head…“Daughter, I never left…you walked away.” This was God, and his voice knocked me onto the ground. That was in 2002. I went through a series of purging processes. He removed friends, situations, and even opportunities in my life to bring me closer to Him. (Embedded Lesson #1, God is a jealous God; don’t place things in HIS place.) As I began to study His word (Embedded Lesson #2, if you want to hear what God has to say, read His word.) I ran into the scripture, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be white as snow…” For me, the red represented all of the voluntary sin I had been committing and lavishing in. At that moment I lay at the foot of my bed and poured out my soul thanking Jesus for this second chance, this was June of 2003. God spoke life into me that night and reminded me that not only has He allowed me to begin again, but He restored me. He reminded me that “I was fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Psalms 139:14) because, not only was I made in his image (Gen 1:27) but because he loves me (John 3:16.)

Sis, you may need a new start in a certain area of your life. Don’t allow the devil to deceive you into believing that you cannot begin again. With every dawn is a new beginning. And God is there waiting because you deserve it.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for reminding me that I can begin again. Thank You for your mercy and favor thus far. Show me how to pray and to listen to Your directions. Forgive me of the sins I have committed and teach me how to rely on You for my total healing. I love You Lord, You are the source of my being and I owe all praises to You. Thank You in advance for restoring me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

My girlfriends and I have this empowerment “thing” that we do. If we ever experience rejection, we will read our resume` to ourselves. So here’s your resume`. I EMPOWER you to stand in the mirror and speak power over your life…this is YOUR resume:

“I am a child of God who is fearfully and wonderfully made, I am fearless. I am the head and not the tail. I am strong because God’s strength resides in me. Any weapon that forms against me will not rise nor prosper because the battle is God’s and He loves me. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I am His…He bought me with a price and has covered my sins with his righteousness.”

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

Goals & Dreams, God's Love, Inspirational, Motivation, Self-Esteem

An Unlikely Candidate

Recently a friend asked me to do something and she told me that God told her to use me. If she were standing in front of me, surely she would have been given the side eye, neckroll, folded arms, lip smack with a loud foot stomp. I tried to laugh it off because I knew that surely God wasn’t using me to do anything. Either she was wrong or God surely hadn’t been paying attention. I think I have been to church two times this year (more if you count my attendance via and I know that my sporadic opening and closing of the Bible couldn’t count for true study of the Word. I do the occasional fast and have talked “about Him” a lot but I only talk “to Him” on occasion. While I yearn for a closer relationship with God our current casual encounters would not make me the likely candidate…or so I thought.

In the midst of belittling myself and coming up with all of the excuses of why He couldn’t have picked this mediocre Christian, the spirit reminded me:  God often uses UNLIKELY people to carry out His will and draw them closer to Him!

Joshua 2:1 reveals “Then Joshua son of Nun secretly sent two spies from Shittim. “Go, look over the land,” he said, “especially Jericho.” So they went and entered the house of a prostitute named Rahab and stayed there. Of all of the people that God could have chosen to use as a vessel for this huge undertaking, God chose a WHORE. Imagine that! I am sure there were other people in Jericho who would have allowed the men to secretly lodge with them as they planned to overtake the city; but, God chose Rahab and in return for her cooperation and faith her and her family’s lives were spared in the destruction of the city.

Saul of Tarsus hated Christians. Acts 8:3 “Saul began to destroy the church. Going from house to house, he dragged off both men and women and put them in prison.” As a matter of fact, he hated Christians so much that he learned about their Christian friends in Damascus by somehow getting the letters they were writing to them in prison. Being the over zealous persecutor that he was, Saul journeyed to Damascus to round up more Christians for prison; however on this trip God had a different purpose. Acts 9 reveals Saul’s total transformation. Jesus met Saul on his journey and confronted him directly “Saul, Saul why do you prosecute me?” After meeting Jesus on his journey, Saul began to sing a different tune. The Lord blinded him and sent him into the city leaving instructions with Ananias. Responding to Ananias’ doubts of Saul’s transformation, God spoke to him in Acts 9:15 “But the Lord said to Ananias, “Go! This man is my chosen instrument to proclaim my name to the Gentiles and their kings and to the people of Israel.” Saul later changed his name to Paul and went from Christian persecutor to Christian missionary.  Paul went on to write 13 books of the New Testament (Romans, I and II Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, I and II Thessalonians, I and II Timothy, Titus and Philemon) I am sure that Paul, when reflecting on his life, found it remarkable that God would choose him with his shady past to now spread the gospel and save souls.

There are many “unlikely” candidate stories in the Bible; but as I reflected on these two I realized that this task could be my opportunity to do God’s will and in the process become more than just an associate with Him. It had less to do with the task and more about developing our own personal relationship. It would require that I study the word, pray, manage my time and have the ability to relay the knowledge He gives me to others. For many this is an easy task; however, my haphazard approach to my spiritual life would have to be restructured. To do this task we would have to spend time together. My task was to write you an EmpowerMoment.

Although I was initially discouraged, I thought about my life and my accomplishments. I have always been the “unlikely candidate.” A mother with mental illness, brothers incarcerated and on drugs, welfare recipient the list can go on but through it all God sustained me while chaos went on all around me. According to the worlds statistics I should have been a teenage mom or at least a high school dropout but God’s plan for my life was different. I was the “unlikely candidate” that graduated from high school, college, got a Masters degree in Civil Engineering, ran a multi-million dollar organization, got a great job (QUIT!) and am now co-CEO of a company. My “unlikely candidate” testimony probably makes me one of the BEST candidates. Who am I to doubt God?

Throughout our lives God often taps us on the shoulder for “special” assignments; but we allow our personal insecurities to hinder us from carrying out His will. “Lord why me?” is the question we often ask. The larger question you should ask is  “Lord why not me?” God is our biggest cheerleader; He wouldn’t give us an assignment without the ability to complete it.  Romans 8:30 proclaims “And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.”  You may be on the flip side of this message. Maybe God has sent an “unlikely candidate” to you with a message but you didn’t receive it because she was dressed like Rahab or their Christian resume wasn’t strong enough. Whatever side of the table you are sitting on know that God picks and chooses His own instruments. Don’t allow your personal insecurities or doubts about the messenger cause you to miss out on what God has preordained for YOU.

 Dear Daddy,

 Help me to recognize the divine assignments You have given me in my life. Cast out any spirits of confusion or doubt that would make me believe that I am not equipped to carry out Your will. Encourage my soul and give me a spirit of discernment so that I can recognize the messages that You have for me even when they don’t come in the package I’m expecting. Lord continue to increase my faith and order my steps according to Your word. Allow me to draw closer to You and use me as a vessel to bless others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today EMPOWER yourself by making a conscious decision to do something that God has been tapping you on the shoulder to do. Whether it’s to speak to someone you haven’t spoke to in years or to take your life in a totally different direction, JUST DO IT! He’s ready, He’s waiting on YOU!

Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is  the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister,  friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philipians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”

Goals & Dreams, Motivation, Self-Esteem

Naturally Beautiful from the Inside Out!

So here I am on my quest to become what the African-American community has termed “natural.” I’m only at nearly 3 months on my journey of growing my relaxer out. And while I had previously considered how much effort and work it would take to make this transition, I never once thought about how much adversity I would meet as a result of this personal decision to go “natural.” A couple of weeks ago, I got my very first “transitioning style” and to be completely honest it took a few hours for me to get adjusted to my new look. But I think that’s a normal reaction to change in general. Now what took me a little longer to get used to was all of the negative reactions that I received from people in regards to my hair.  If you know me intimately, you know that I am an extremely sensitive individual. With that being said, I often take harsh words spoken to heart and let them mull over and over in mind until they become like a deadly cancer slowly killing every ounce of positive esteem that I harbor.  Now here I was thinking that I looked HAUTE and I had a few individuals who made comments and facial expressions making it very clear that they were in utter disapproval of my new look.  Honestly, all of the naysayers literally made me feel ugly and discouraged.  I even had people tell me that I couldn’t or shouldn’t do this. It wasn’t until I met all of this adversity about me going “natural” that I realized that I often focus on what other people think about my decisions and sometimes I even let them deter me from my plans .

I thank God for His Word because he has something in there for everything that I could ever feel or experience.  In His first love letter to me, Genesis, He explicitly states that I was made in His image (Genesis 1:27) so I, like David, will praise God because I am fearfully and wonderfully made! (Psalm 139:14) I realized that in the grand scheme of things, when all of the smoke cleared, the only two thoughts that really mattered were my God’s and mine and we were  both in approval of this new look. In fact, my Daddy in heaven was so much more concerned with the other parts of me that no one could see but Him.  For man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

I literally heard Him whisper to me, “If you let me beautify you on the inside, it will reflect on the outside through your smile, your confidence and your overall demeanor. So whose report do you believe?”

In every decision that YOU make in YOUR life (and there are so many more important ones than my hair!), know that you are going to meet opposition, nay sayers and doubters.  I believe that this is usually the sign of a great idea or plan.  The important thing is to push past the people who tell you what you can’t or shouldn’t do. I remember this profound line from Chris Gardner in Pursuit of Happyness: “You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.”

Oh and what I failed to mention was that for that handful of people who made disgusting faces or rude comments, I had at least 4 handfuls more who showered me with compliments. Many of them came directly behind a derogatory comment. Isn’t that just like God to send encouragement in the midst of adversity just to let you know that He’s still there and He still cares!

Here are three principles to enact every time you meet adversity on your way to a goal or promise:

1)      Focus on your goal, not the negative things that people have to say about it. I realized that the only comments that I was repeating were the ones that didn’t align with what I wanted to do. I was busy telling everyone all of the harsh words that were spoken about the situation. Please don’t make this mistake. Spend your energy completing your task and only play positive, encouraging comments over in your mind.

2)      Celebrate the support system that you do have. For many people, it’s just you and God. Celebrate that! If you have family and friends that are genuinely interested in seeing you get to your destiny, consider yourself blessed and celebrate that! Quit worrying about who you don’t have in your corner and focus on that faithful few who are cheering you on.

3)      Never let others action affect your great character. It’s so easy to become the very person that you despise. It doesn’t take much effort to take the negative words spewed in your direction and send them to another person aspiring to do something great. For every negative word spoken to you, find someone else and speak life into their dream for their family, business or life!

Dear Daddy,

Sometimes I’m affected by the things that people say about me and I thank You for letting me know that this is a completely normal reaction. I know that You love everything about me, flaws and all. May you teach me to see the beauty in me and all the things that you are leading me to do even when no one else can see it. I thank You for Your 20/20 vision that is better than any natural eye. Continue to beautify me from the inside out! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today, choose to love and EMPOWER yourself and what you are pursuing even if you don’t have ONE physical supporter. Know that your dreams are attainable and you and God comprise the loudest, biggest cheering section that you could ever imagine.