If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 1 John 4:20 NIV
Whenever someone asks about my siblings, I always proudly say that I have an older sister and “my Dad has a son.” I can’t tell you when I decided to incorporate this phrase into my repertoire of colloquialisms but I know it was many years ago. Interestingly, I never saw anything wrong with referring to my “half-brother” this way until about a month ago.
At the end of March, his mother passed away and instantly I began praying for him like never before. CORRECTION — I had NEVER prayed for him before I received this news. I questioned why all of sudden he was an intricate part of my quiet time with Jesus but I kept on. I could only imagine the hurt and pain that he was feeling at that time so I continued to pray intensely for him but I could not bring myself to call.
After his mother’s memorial I continued to pray for his strength until the enemy started taunting me the way he used to when I was a little girl. Envy and angry began to consume me at the mere thought that he was able to have my father around all the time, while I was restricted to these sporadic visits. So at that moment I convinced myself that I didn’t have to call!
By mid-April, God had stepped in and revealed to me that He wanted me to be a better sister. At first I felt offended because anyone who knows me is aware that I will do anything for my “SISSY” but then I remembered that I also have a BROTHER!! For most of my life, I have struggled with the appropriate way to accept what society refers to as my “half-brother” but there are plenty of stories in the Bible where siblings with different parents acknowledged each other and some even were able to have healthy, functioning relationships.
In Genesis, chapters 16 and 17, the Bible discusses Ishmael and Isaac, both sons of Abraham. One was born to Hagar, the slave woman, and the latter born to Sarah. Additionally, 2 Samuel 13 tells the story of David’s son Absalom, his sister Tamar, and their half-brother Amnon and 1 Kings 1 describes the relationship of Adonijah and King Solomon, both born to different mothers. Lastly, the most shocking “sibling-ship” that I discovered was that of Jesus. He had many brothers and sisters. (See Mark 6:3 and Matthew 13:55) Although, each of the above scriptures references depicted different family dynamics (some very troubling), one thing remained the same… they were BROTHERS and SISTERS.
Now, ladies do understand that I am still working on this. I have yet to call him, but I do understand why it SO important that I do so. It is not up to me to determine where I should allow my brother to fit in to my family tree, rather I should just accept the leaf where he hangs and embrace him. Over the years, I have found that not one family will look the same but as long as LOVE is the common denominator, then the dynamics of the family usually don’t matter. This one call is going to close an entry gate on the enemy that he has been using all of my life. Only God knows what will come of my obedience…
Lord, please forgive me for the times that I didn’t embrace my family. Help me to realize that my justifications are just excuses not to do the right thing. I can’t distinguish between the two on my own, but instead I welcome Your insight whole-heartedly. Please heal any broken family ties. Help me to always be aware of the enemy’s areas of opportunities in my life that I might counteract it with more of Your Word. Open my heart to receive more of You as I continue on my Christian journey. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Sisters in Christ, I EMPOWER you embrace your family, regardless of past situations and circumstances that have occurred. I EMPOWER you to stay sensitive to the Word of God in your life. Once He gives you an order, act on it!
P.S. I will keep you updated when I finally make the call… I have set a deadline and it will get done!
Is there someone who you need to make “the call” to? Don’t hesistate, do it today! Share your triumphant moment so that others may overcome!
Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management. She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church. She serves tirelessly with the Evangelism Team there. Latasha also works at Mt. Zion as a member of the Administrative Support Staff. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn.” Isaiah 54:17